LIVE CHAT: BPD for Friends, Family and Carers - This Sunday 3rd October 7:00-8:30pm AEDT

I believe now I have a hood fit of GP, psychologist and psychiatrist who understand BPD.
ut took 10 years of therapy with other psychologist but now I know I'm on the right treatment team.
@BPDSurvivor

@Shaz51 ,

Do your friend's son see a therapist?

15 years is a very challenging age in itself. There are so many neurological changes taking place in a teenager's brain at that time. I believe training in taking control of his own breath is a great way to start. However, I also acknowlege how difficult this is. It requires regular ongoing practise, and it would be probably helpful if he had a trained person to guide him at first.

If he can learn to take control of his breath, he will be more able to reduce his heart rate and in turn take his body out of fight/flight mode.

I agree with you @BPDSurvivor everytime my previous psychologist told me to stop emailing I would do it more. It was like I was trying to see how far I could push him.
Telling me what to do irritates me.

In my connections with people who are to see a MH practitioner, it has always been suggested that if the person does not feel comfortable with the practitioner, they should ask to be referred on or seek out another practitioner themselves.

With the depth of personal interaction in a MH client/practitioner relationship, it is very important that the relationship should be seen as both supporting and therapeutic.

Personalities interact in different ways and it is important that the personalities interact favourably, as is the case in many other relationship situations, but especially in the therapeutic environment.

That's amazing to hear @BlueBay !

It took me more than 10 years to get the 'right' treatment.

People used to just turn away from me. However, I also believe if the same treatment was offered to me earlier, I would not have been ready.

So when I mean the right 'fit', the pwBPD must also be ready.

Recovery is a 2-sided process. It doesn't work if only the therapist is doing all the work, neither does it work if only the pwBPD is doing the work.

Absolutely @HenryX !

Everyone is different! Personalities, likes, dislikes, experiences, needs.

For example, even if 2 people are diagnosed with BPD, they will not be the same. There is such a huge spectrum. Therefore, as you said @HenryX , if things don't work with one therapist, seek alternatives.

Just don't give up!

Yes @BlueBay !

If someone told me NOT to do something, I'd do it on purpose. Believe it or not, it's not because we are 'bad' people. It attributes to the condition! Boundary-testing to see how much someone REALLY cares... or to prove to ourselves that they really don't care! Self-sabotage all right!

Hi @HenryX

My previous psychologist took advantage of me seeing him weekly gir 5 years. Im sure he would hsve know earlier that treating me was out of his depth. I was vulnerable and looked up at him as a close friend.
looking back now I can see so many wrong things between a therapist and patient. But at the time he was 'my amazing friend'

looked up to him like a father figure.

Gee I feel pretty ashamed of writing so much about me. It's not nice.
@BPDSurvivor

Oh yes @BPDSurvivor self sabotage

that's me definitely

Hi @BlueBay

I think that your comments are contributing to and helping the conversation to develop