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Fear

Fear

Last fortnight we spoke about anger. We used the emotion wheel to help us explore how we feel anger, spoke about how anger shows up in our lives, and some of the ways that we cope when anger surfaces.

This fortnight, we are continuing the discussion of emotions by exploring our next emotion; fear. This is the orange section of the wheel:

Fear has an important role to play in keeping us safe and well. It’s an emotion that brings a strong bodily reaction and helps us to navigate many different situations in our lives. When we think about fear, ways we might describe the feeling of fear include “I feel scared”, “I feel anxious”, “I am overwhelmed” “I feel stressed” “I feel threatened” .

It’s our body’s inbuilt emotional barometer of how safe we feel.

Feeling fear

This emotion might be felt in different ways to other emotions, such as anger, and can impact many different systems in our body. Fear also might be associated with different behaviours. For example: when we feel fear, our body undergoes stress and we might feel our heart rate increase, our breathing change, or other bodily changes:

When we can identify how fear shows up for us, and some of the signs we might be experiencing fear, we can take steps to manage the emotion and our responses.

This discussion will talk about themes such as fear and stress, and topics that could be upsetting or triggering for those reading along. There are questions we have planned ahead of time to keep this conversation safe and constructive, but if at any time you feel distressed, you are welcome to reach out to our peer support or counselling services for additional support.

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Question 2 fear usually shows up in my life when I'm doing something new or outside my comfort zone but I usually find a way to do it anyway.

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Thank you for your responses everyone! I can see that many of us sit in a space of fear often, particularly around the unknown and change. It can also show up as a symptom of the complex mental health concerns that many of us live with. I hope you all know that it is okay to experience fear, regardless of the origin. That fear keeps us safe.

Thank you also to @BPDSurvivor , @JungleGiants @RedHorse for leading into our next question

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Question 3:

What are signs that fear is coming on or building up? How does fear feel physically in your body?

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@BlueBay @Oaktree @SJT63 @MIFANTCARER @Arizona @pinklollipop15 @RedHorse @utopia @Shaz51 @Millieme @Owen45 @wellwellwellnez @JungleGiants @Anastasia @Jorge @TideisTurning @pinklollipop15

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I watched the reality TV action series, SAS Australia, during the week. One of the episodes was titled "Fear". The SAS Instructors gave the recruits harsh tasks to challenge their fears. Very relevant for my management of fears, phobias.

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If it is the fear of a possible physical threat (regardless of if there is an actual threat), they I freeze. Can't move. Heart beat goes beserk. I breath rapidly yet feel Im not getting enough breath. I shake. I sweat. Often I drop to the ground. Which leads to weeing myself.

If it is fear of failure, etc, my negative self talk goes crazy. One thought leading to another. All telling me why I won't succeed and how stupid I am to even think that I should try to do this thing. Lots of crying. Headache. Nor breathing properly.

When this happens, I have to take myself to bed, try and calm down / shut out my negative head talk, and go to sleep.

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Fear makes me feel uncertain, uneasy in doing what I need to do. it creates a world of having to hide and avoid people and places. A confusion of who to trust and befriend and when seeing others trying to decide whether they are safe with your conversation about yourself ....

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@cloudcore i'm just new here so hoping i'm responding to the right thread!

Fear for me starts with anxiety. Usually a small niggling worry about my loved ones. Then it progresses to a perceived threat to myself. If I don't think to temporarily increase meds it has ended in psychosis.

Physically, it is hard to explain. It is like my brain shuts down pathways to my body. I don't even feel like I have a body at that point.

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Hi @cloudcore

I'm not able to answer this question right now because my anxiety is so bad, but I will come back as soon as I can.

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Hi @TideisTurning ,

Thank you for sharing the quote. It makes so much sense!

It's caused me to remember and appreciate that fear is neither a "good" nor "bad" emotion. People often associate it with negative things, hence making it a "bad" emotion.

Yet your quote clearly demonstrates the power of fear - How fear can save us out of dangerous situations. Fear can teach us new things. Fear is a superpower.

BPDSurvivor

@cloudcore @Arizona @Jorge @mum12 @utopia

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Fear can definitely be a superpower @BPDSurvivor I'm happy to hear the quote resonated with you also 😊

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Final Question:

How do you manage and cope with fear?

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@BlueBay @Oaktree @SJT63 @MIFANTCARER @Arizona @pinklollipop15 @BPDSurvivor @RedHorse @utopia @Shaz51 @Millieme @Owen45 @wellwellwellnez @JungleGiants @Anastasia @Jorge

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