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Struggling with a marriage i shouldnt be in

Jhett707Casual Contributor17 Sept 2016, 7:59 am AEST

Struggling with a marriage i shouldnt be in

I am alone in a miserable marriage. My wife has cheated on me, my family no longer have anything to do with us because of her and i cant leave. If i leave my 2 beautiful girls grow up thinking her actions are right and her dad who is a lunatic will move in to the house i have worked my bum off to renovate and buy in the first place. Sex life is non existent and i have been diagnosed with depression. I have thought about suicide so many times to get me out of this situation and have no knowledge of what comes of my girls once i am gone. Dont know what to do to make it better. I have spoken to her and we are amicable, she goes on like nothing ever happened, i believe she is still doing it. No trust equals no love.

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In response to: Struggling with a marriage i shouldnt be in

Tigga19Senior Contributor29 Sept 2016, 11:36 pm AEST

Re: Struggling with a marriage i shouldnt be in

I can relate to how you're feeling. I stayed in a toxic marriage for 16 years. It's a horrible situation to be in. Absolutely soul-destroying.

Have faith in yourself and remember that you are stronger abd braver than you think.

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor30 Sept 2016, 3:18 am AEST

Re: Struggling with a marriage i shouldnt be in

Hi @Jhett707

Yeah .... your situation sux at the moment but it won't stay that way cos you're on to it ... !

As depressed as you're feeling at the moment, you are in fact stepping up, and there will come a time when you can take back a semblance of control ... at least enough to make some necessary life changes ....

Psychological support is imperative for you though .... and you will find a lot of that here .... so please stay around ... move around the forums and connect .... you will find it invaluable I'm sure, as we all have.

Youre not alone ... and you will recognise that through other people's stories too ....

There are online counselling services. Chat with Lifeline when you're feeling really low - 13 11 14 or if you go to their website you can chat online - https://www.lifeline.org.au

Some of our night owls keep company on the Night Shift thread. I will tag you from there ....

Consider going to the GP and getting a referral and $ support to see a psychologist .... there will be a string of initial visits to get your story expstablished, then you can go back and see them at intervals that are appropriate to you, if nothing else, just to receive professional support for your life choices ....

Try to think of yourself in a house-share situation where you don't like your house-mate but you've sorta got to stay there cos you can't afford to move .... it helps to change your mindset a bit to help accommodate your circumstances.

All the best with it. Chat soon. ....

🌷 F&H

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