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The magic of tidying

The magic of tidying

Decluttering and minimising. Taking control of house and garden, nurturing body and soul. I've read Marie Kondo and read a little on a related Swedish method and feel inspired. I've been a borderline hoarder and lived with depression for too long and want to take the initiative. Has anyone done this? Or is there anyone who'd like to try with me?

I've sorted my books and uni notes. I've decided to sell some furniture when lockdown lifts. But the other papers and STUFF in the house and the jungle outside have me beaten atm. Some mutual encouragement and support is the only thing that's going to get me through. I know I'll have to face some decisions like "will I ever use that fabric stash" or "how many books in the TBR ,pile is too many" or "where do I start in the kitchen". Boxing isn't the answer, it was a temporary reprieve.

It's going to be a contest between my commitment to getting sorted and the looming possibility of having to move and downsize for my health. Having control of my space will be a win in either the old space or a new one.

Setting goals. Celebrating achievements. Sharing life hacks. Is anyone on board?

Dimity.

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Distinguishing between what you can and can't control can be really tough! @Dimity Particularly if you are feeling exhausted (you are absolutely not stupid, ignorant, or lazy!).

I can hear your mind and body are going through a lot, so please be extra gentle with yourself.

Do lists of practical steps you can take help at all? 💛

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@AuntGlow once upon a time I used to make stepwise lists. At the moment my blankness and brain fog make it hard . Steps are towards something (what?) Or you visualise an endpoint and work backwards. I've pondered this at various times and all I can think of is that if I cull and simplify enough I might (re)discover a worthwhile core to rebuild from. That could be a strategy for the house.

My fractured family and the difficult decisions I have to make about them are another matter. In thinking about it and talking to them a lot of trauma is resurfacing. I came across a tool I downloaded from a place called Justice Connect that's a questionnaire that might help walk me through some of the things to think about.

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@Dimity hi dimity, nice to see you. Hope the tools you downloaded can help. Is it too late for a cuppa? Small steps might help?

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Thanks @Meowmy good idea I'll get a cuppa and my meds.

Yes one small step at a time.

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Hi @Dimity

Baby steps my friend

I hope that tool you downloaded is helpful to you

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@Oaktree @Meowmy @AuntGlow

  • I've achieved ax7 day streak of working at least an hour a day. No real progress yet.

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@Dimity hey dimity, you are a person of strength. Well done

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Well done @Dimity

Having my second cuppa for the day here

Hello @Meowmy , @Oaktree 😊

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@Shaz51 hey Shazzy, enjoy your day.

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Hope you have an OK day too my @Meowmy 😊

Got a load of washing on

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