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Topic Tuesday // Healthy Relationships in Lockdown // Tues 31st August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

Topic Tuesday // Healthy Relationships in Lockdown // Tues 31st August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

Hi SANE community,

This fortnight we will be having a discussion on healthy relationships, but specifically in the context of lockdowns, which affect many of us across Australia today. Our guest speaker, a relationship counsellor, will be here to speak on boundaries, communication skills and conflict resolution to guide those of you who may be struggling to sustain harmony and connection with family, partners or roommates when stuck in the home.

The last two years have been really tough with a novel virus circulating the world, and extended and frequent lockdowns being snapped in place. Mental health organisations, like SANE, Lifeline and 1800 RESPECT have shown that lockdowns have caused significant hardship and stress on individuals whether that be financially, physically or emotionally, and the effects of that hardship and stress are becoming more apparent in the home and in relationships.

This Topic Tuesday will hold space for us to discuss boundaries and ways to communicate with those in our lives to mend and/or maintain a healthy relationship dynamic when we’re stuck sharing the same space. It may be an important and valuable topic for those who have experienced, might be experiencing or could experience a relationship breakdown in lockdown.

Please join us here on Tuesday the 31st of August 2021 from 7:00pm-8:30pm AEST to follow this conversation.

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New to the forums or want to get involved in this discussion? Check out the How To Guide for Topic Tuesdays.
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We recognise that situations at home and in relationships are at various stages, and we welcome everyone to bring their experiences to this space. If you are experiencing a situation at home puts your safety at risk, please contact emergency services or contact 1800 RESPECT for referrals and additional support. This discussion will more generally discuss ideas around boundaries and relationship communication skills, however we will also provide information on resources that may be available to you.

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Healthy Relationships in Lockdown // Tues 31st August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

Hi @JungleGiants, you're right, navigating relationships during lockdown can be tricky. We miss those who aren't with us. We will be discussing how to set healthy boundaries and how to spot unhealthy boundaries. This may be useful to consider for both those around you and those you communicate with online.

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Healthy Relationships in Lockdown // Tues 31st August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

Hi @Mezza65 and welcome, so great to see you here 🙂

That's a really important boundary you have mentioned around doing for others, and one that can impact relationshops. I would be interested to hear more about the role that boundary plays in your life and your relationships 🙂

I can also see that this is one of your first few posts to the forums, so please feel free to give @cloudcore @Former-Member or myself a shout out if you need a hand navigating the discussion. We also have a How To Guide: Topic Tuesday if you want any tips 🙂

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Healthy Relationships in Lockdown // Tues 31st August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

I agree @BPDSurvivor , boundaries can definitely provide stability in our life. I know that has been the case for myself, especially when setting boundaries with people around me!

@Shaz51 it sounds like you recognise some of these boundaries, which ones stand out for you?

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Healthy Relationships in Lockdown // Tues 31st August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

Yeah 🙂 people contacting me about work or study

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Healthy Relationships in Lockdown // Tues 31st August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

@outlander

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Healthy Relationships in Lockdown // Tues 31st August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST


@Shaz51 wrote:

Yes get free time after doing things all day and then someone requesting something when you sit down


Yeah @Shaz51 ...KIDS!

But on a more serious note, I totally agree @Shaz51 @JungleGiants . But I've also found that if you set your boundaries early, people learn quickly, and stop bugging you.

Another way we have been taught to set boundaries, is when unreasonable emails come, use the 'Reply All' function to share your response with everyone involved... hope that makes sense.

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Healthy Relationships in Lockdown // Tues 31st August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

Ah ha @BPDSurvivor , my elderly mum xx

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Healthy Relationships in Lockdown // Tues 31st August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST


@Former-Member wrote:

To determine boundaries, we need to consider our Personal Boundaries by asking a few questions:

  • Where do I begin and end?
  • Where do my responsibility begin and where does it end?
  • What are my needs?
  • What are my values?

I really love these questions @Former-Member, such a helpful tool for understanding and setting boundaries 🙂

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Healthy Relationships in Lockdown // Tues 31st August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

Question 3: How do you talk about your boundaries with those in your home? What are some communication skills to keep in mind?

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Healthy Relationships in Lockdown // Tues 31st August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

@cloudcore

The biggest one is focusing on everyone's else's needs before my own needs which sometimes never gets met

@Daisydreamer , @Former-Member

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