8 Dimensions of Wellness

@P.S. When is yours @Shaz51? I'll mark it on my calendar.

So good to hear from you @Owlunar and thank you for your well wishes. It hurts no matter how much I pretend it doesn't. I've done my best for everyone and deserve much better than this. I don't claim to have been always a perfect person but I can claim to have been the best person I can be in the circumstances life handed me. And I certainly wouldn't do to anyone what has been done to me.

I really hurt today.

When is your birthday so that I can make a note to send you a personal message on yours. I can't promise cake and a card because I have never been able to figure out how to send pictures which are allowed! So pleased your family holds you dearly. You are so very lucky - and deserve nothing less.

Thanks @Historylover

You can only be the best person possible for you - I am sure there are people who think I am a grumpy old woman and that's okay for me - I am a complicated person and I speak my mind.

But I try to live the best life possible which means I care for other people

My birthday is on 6th July and my specialist told me that I have arthritis because I have had too many birthdays - well - that is a joke and I get it - and I am okay with it - but my last birthday seems to make me feel ancient for some reason

You do deserve better but there is not a lot we can do about other people - they are what they are -

Sending my best thoughts

Dec

i will remember my @Historylover

mine is the 25th June my darling xx

ohh my @Historylover how old are you xxxx

Hello @StuF , @Appleblossom , @Elac , @Owlunar

There is so much talk about assertiveness - but just don't try to use it or you'll be labeled, and 'they' will never let you live it down. Don't ever be anything but middle-of-the-road compliant.

I'm currently having a very bad time from having spoken my mind in that situation I recently referred to. It just doesn't work. I know now that (many) men have no respect for women and have a men's only gossip club - a band of 'brothers'.

I've marked your birthday on my calendar @Owlunar but send belated best wishes for last month's. I hope you had a lovely day.

Hi @Shaz51

It’s so lovely to hear from you

Thank you so much for inviting me to participate in these conversations

I really love the sound of the topic that focuses on emotional wellness and as such, I’ve made a note of the date in my diary, so that (if everything goes according to plan) I’ll be able to join you

Take care,

ShiningStar

Many thanks @Shaz51. Sorry I missed yours. I send belated birthday greetings and best wishes for many more. Sending best wishes to you.

Thanks @Historylover

This year I did have a good birthday - my daughter came here for a short while - no lock-down that day - and we had fish-n-chips for lunch

She is still recovering from orthopaedic surgery last year - she can drive short distances now - she still has to be careful and she is uncomfortable sitting, standing, lying down

But we did get together

Last year I had a sucky birthday - I couldn't see my daughter as she had a heavy cold and was isolating after a COVID test and I had shoulder pain so severe I was admitted to hospital - such an event!! - the pits - I went through a private ED and they gave me pain relief instantly and kept it up - which not everyone gets

I wish you ( in advance) for a good birthday this year - it will be spring by then - and hopefully the lockdowns can be less

Actually - I am an assertive person - and of course - people might be entitled to think I am grumpy. I had 10 days in hospital later last year - too long - I had plenty of things to speak to the charge nurses about - sometimes it is necessary - but never easy

I am like that though - I did learn how to be assertive - I think it makes things easier for other people - at least - I hope so

Dec

Hey @Owlunar @ShiningStar @Elac

@Historylover Like you I have had few birthdays recognised in last 30 years. It was always my job to remember others. I appreciated @Shaz51 taking role of birthday threads for members, it def cheered me up in last few years. It says something that my son decided to return home to also give me a birthday and respect, as he was sick & tired of the way the family has treated and ignored me. You kind of get used to it, and I am learning to protect my heart from whatever others presume about it.

Hearing you also about the "assertiveness" caper. I was ever only very polite and very compliant with my last Gp and she turned into a very bossy presumtuous lady. Full of herself, tho she apologised once for putting her point of view on me and said it was wrong, she continued to do non medical judgey statements in next 2 sessions. I always praise and compliment if people are doing their job. It is wearying putting in complaints .... often I just let things go, but then they get away with it, at the tax payers expense.