pls talk to me I need support

Hello @Former-Member

You have described your feelings at the present time, and I can imagine that those feelings would certainly be very distressing. Knowing that you may not be able to see a psychiatrist for some months, to work through and address those feelings and their causes, would mean that reaching out for assistance, as you have done, would be very important for you.

You say that you are quite young and that you are still at school, it appears that you might be under 18 yrs of age. If that is so, there may be other resources that could add to, or more closely fit your needs.

The way that @Arizona and @Snowie have responded to your request for someone to talk with, on this forum, is really lovely. From my perspective, their comments have been very supportive and nurturing. It was also great that you and FridaKahlo could connect with your interests in music and musicians. FridaKahlo's statement that “It's okay; you don't have to apologise.” is spot on. We really don't need to apologise for seeking assistance and support. I'd venture to say that nearly everyone on the forum has sought support, at one time or another. That is why most people started their contact with the forums. And it means that people can understand where you are at, because, in one way or another, they have also been in similar situations. I agree that, although seeking help is often driven with a sense of fear and urgency, it still takes considerable strength and courage to actually ask for that assistance and support. So congratulations on taking those steps.

I hope that, having spoken with FridaKahlo, earlier this morning, that you were able to get some restful sleep last night/earlier this morning.

If you would like to talk more about how you are feeling, please keep contact. Also, If you would be happy to let us know your age (over or under 18), we can see what other resources may be available to assist you as quickly as possible.

With My Very Best Wishes

HenryX

Hi Frida, I'm not always good at giving support, but I will try. I've had depression, psychotic and general depression for about 30 years now, and perhaps some of my "wisdom, strength and hope" may be of use to someone else. The important thing is to know some of the things that work for you, and sometimes people will suggest things that you know don't work for you; don't be afraid to turn those suggestions down, they're only suggestions, not compulsory.

Hi thank you so much!
My brain put up barriers for me and that makes me feel like if I try some coping strategies that that's 'wrong' to do. The rational part of my brain obviously knows that's silly but I still can't ignore what the irrational part of my brain is saying. And I feel like I have to listen to it because I don't want to die. It's like I can't let myself relax I think?

I like Shania Twain's whole 'come on over' album, it's probably my favourite. And as far as One Direciton, I love all their songs so much but Act My Age and Home are my favourites! I like Taylor Swift as well! The song that always makes me feel better is Fine Line by Harry Styles.

i haven't done many but I kind of like writing poems and stuff about how I'm feeling. I really appreciate you replying 🙂

Thank you @Last-Lament!

that's helpful thanks!
I like listening to music and watching interviews with singers. Also reading definitely helps me.
if there was anyone here who could relate to my OCD type symptoms then that would be good but I'm happy to talk to anyone who has any advice and could help me. Even just messaging everyone here takes my mind off things so that's also a help.
thanks for being there 🙂

Hi @Former-Member

I'm so glad people have replied to your post. I haven't been here long and I couldn't think who to tag. It was very late and my memory was a bit fuzzy. I just wanted to make sure that you weren't alone.

Writing poetry helps me with how I'm feeling too. Maybe there is a poetry thread on here or we could start one.

I found a Stevie Nicks song you might like... It was on the soundtrack to The Crown. I wasn't sure if I would like The Crown, I thought it might be too political for me, but I really enjoyed it and I especially liked the part about Princess Diana.

I will tell you something funny... I'm nearly 50 and all my life I thought the lyrics to the song were "the edge of the seven seas" 😆. It wasn't until I watched The Crown that I found out the real lyrics (and the name of the song). And I grew up listening to Fleetwood Mac and Stevie Nicks. I had a cat called Stevie when I was 5.

Stevie Nicks - Edge of Seventeen (with footage from The Crown)

https://youtu.be/eK-Whn4LKs0

Hi @Daisydreamer I have just realised that these forums are for people 18 and over, and that @Former-Member is only 15. Are you and the Sane Australia staff able to help @Former-Member find a forum that is more suitable?

I'm sorry @Former-Member I didn't realise.

I have an ability to compartmentalise, so when I'm doing things that require me to focus on them I can put my feelings to one side and not think about them while I'm engaged in that activity. You may or may not be able to do that - I've found to my surprise that a lot of people aren't able to compartmentalise. So it may be to your advantage to write poetry about how you feel because that way you'll address both the rational and irrational parts, and we're all both rational and irrational, even those who don't have mental health issues - it's the weird and wonderful human nature we're ALL blessed with.

Talking with your health professionals about the thoughts, also talking to others on fora like this will also help you to know these feelings aren't unique to you, and they're more common than you think. It's not unusual for people in a state of depression to feel it's wrong for them to try coping strategies.

It was explained to me that when we've had these states for long enough our brains can become dependent on those feelings, and recovery finds us weening off those states...and yes that takes a while, and occasionally we take two steps forward and one step back, and occasionally the wheels come off. However it's not a race, you don't have to be all recovered by next week.

It also good to remind yourself that the pandemic is affecting a lot of people's mental health.

Having lived with severe mental illness for as long as I have I can absolutely strongly advise you to give yourself the patience and self-care you need, all of yourself including the irrational parts.

Being in this state doesn't mean you've done anything wrong, so if you have feelings of that sort don't be hard on yourself. Be patient and kind to yourself. You will feel better, and I hope it's very soon.

@Former-Member and @Arizona

Hello @Former-Member and @Arizona

What I suggest that we do is to continue talking, rather than anyone feeling alone. We can ask a moderator to assist us in seeking the most appropriate direction to go. However, we want every person to feel that they can keep talking with someone.

It is really great that people have been able to respond to your request for support @Former-Member. I have also been pleased to see that you and @Arizona have been able to relate to each other's interest in music.

Frida has tagged @Daisydreamer who will also receive a tag from this note. Because I believe that Daisydreamer is on tonight, it is likely that you will receive a contact @Former-Member by email, so do keep an eye on your email as well.

Until we know that you have been given appropriate direction and support, please keep contact. We do not want anyone to be alone.

With My Very Best Wishes

@HenryX

Hi @HenryX

I totally agree with what you're saying about not leaving @Former-Member alone. I'm sorry if I didn't express myself very well. I was worried that I had done something wrong. I think I freaked out a bit.

@Arizona

Hello @Arizona

Thank you so much for your 'Support' and letting me know that you are aware of progress. As said in my note, it is so good to know that you and @Former-Member have made a really positive connection.

If you are happy to keep company with @Former-Member , that would be wonderful. If I can help at all, I would be really happy to do so. I'm afraid I am not very familiar with contemporary music though.

With Very Best Wishes

HenryX