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Topic Tuesday // Self Care for Carers // Tues 20th July, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

DaisydreamerSenior Contributor12 July 2021, 1:21 pm AEST

Topic Tuesday // Self Care for Carers // Tues 20th July, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

Hi there SANE Community,

We are very excited to announce that our next Topic Tuesday will be featuring the amazing @Shaz51 talking about self care for carers! Many of you will know @Shaz51 and her passion for carer wellbeing 🙂

Self care

Self care is a term that we speak about on the forums, so what does it mean? Self care is the activities that you do each day that promote your emotional, physical and social health.

Every person's self care will look different- it's as unique as we are. For carers, self care is an important part of maintaining wellbeing and preventing burnout. Often on the forums we hear about compassion fatigue, and the impact on wellbeing that can happen when we don't take time for ourselves.

This discussion will explore burnout and the role of self care in promoting wellbeing as a carer.

Please join us here on Tuesday the 20th of July 2021 from 7:00pm-8:30pm AEST to follow this conversation.

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In response to: Topic Tuesday // Self Care for Carers // Tues 20th July, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

znpSenior Contributor20 July 2021, 8:04 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Self Care for Carers // Tues 20th July, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

100%

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Mindy911Contributor20 July 2021, 8:04 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Self Care for Carers // Tues 20th July, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

✨Oh sorry I just realised you are also in lockdown✨😢Its understandable you must be finding it hard to take time out✨Do you have internet I do yoga with my sister on video lol she is in the UK

In response to: Topic Tuesday // Self Care for Carers // Tues 20th July, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

DaisydreamerSenior Contributor20 July 2021, 8:05 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Self Care for Carers // Tues 20th July, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

Hi @Bunniekins No worries at all! You are more than welcome to look back through this discussion at a later time

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bipolarbunnySenior Contributor20 July 2021, 8:05 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Self Care for Carers // Tues 20th July, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

I know I'm close to burnout when my therapy sessions become vent sessions about my mum instead of being about my healing. My therapist is amazing, such a great support and apart from the forums my only support really.

@Shaz51 Yes my mum is the same, would never admit she is declining mentally, snows and charms all the doctors into giving her a good report. Truth is she is showing signs of early dementia. I'm terrified of what she is going to be like in a few years. As narcissists get worse as they age.

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DaisydreamerSenior Contributor20 July 2021, 8:06 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Self Care for Carers // Tues 20th July, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

Question 5 for @Shaz51 and the community: How do you balance your needs as a carer with the needs of the person/s you care for?

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znpSenior Contributor20 July 2021, 8:06 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Self Care for Carers // Tues 20th July, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

For those who can access it, publicly or privately, I recommend Cognitive Behaviour Therapy. It saved me last year and has been a big part of my coping since. You can learn from books also but groups was great for me. I learned a great many skills which help me navigate things.

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bipolarbunnySenior Contributor20 July 2021, 8:07 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Self Care for Carers // Tues 20th July, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

@Mindy911 Thankfully my aunts are wonderful. I can take her to both her sisters if I need a break. She was supposed to go to her sisters today for a fortnight but lockdown put an end to that.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor20 July 2021, 8:09 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Self Care for Carers // Tues 20th July, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

Question 5 for @Shaz51 and the community: How do you balance your needs as a carer with the needs of the person/s you care for?

Taking time off

Finding time to do things you enjoy together like taking photos

, going to the beach
Also if you see yourself or the one you care for are showing signs, this is when you need time to step back and have time off

for us being self-employed , I will rearrange my diary to have the afternoon off or the weekend to do something different

to have healthy foods

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DaisydreamerSenior Contributor20 July 2021, 8:09 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Self Care for Carers // Tues 20th July, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

Lockdown has definitely added an extra level of complexity for support for carers @bipolarbunny

That's a really tough space to be in when you are looking for more support

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bipolarbunnySenior Contributor20 July 2021, 8:14 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Self Care for Carers // Tues 20th July, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

@Daisydreamer wrote:
Question 5 for @Shaz51 and the community: How do you balance your needs as a carer with the needs of the person/s you care for?

I've learned to make strong boundaries and tell her No. If I have a day I have therapy or other important appointments they are not negotiable. I have started recently scheduling her needs to fit in with mine. It doesn't always work, but for my own sanity I need to put my MI needs ahead of her narcissistic supply and selfish need to have me always around. My family have brought me to the brink of suicide, and I've decided now that I need to live for me and not just to be her carer. And I run. A LOT!

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