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Nothing works for me.

Nothing works for me.

I've been interacting with a new group of people over the past few months. One fellow has engaged in behaviour towards me which I have been unable to bring into line despite my best efforts. I had to mention it to someone because I was becoming increasingly distressed, but it escalated beyond the person I tried to discuss it with.

There were shock waves of response with the result that they have now found it easier to blame me - perhaps implying that I am being untruthful, even though it was mentioned that others had experienced it also - unbeknown to me. Now, because I sought help to deal with another's behaviour which I could not correct, I am regarded as a trouble-maker, as that is easier and more comfortable for them than holding that person responsible for his own unacceptable behaviour and ensuring it doesn't happen again - and they can all simply move on. I am not to blame for his misconduct but I expect to have to discontinue.

Has anyone else had this experience? It happens to me repeatedly. There is nothing I could have done differently. I don't ask for this.

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@Historylover

Sorry for the late reply. I'm not well physically and mentally so just been trying to take care of myself. Thank you for sharing.

Look after yourself.

Powderfinger.

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Good to see you back on board, @Powderfinger.

It's amazing - the swings and roundabouts in our lives. I was feeling so optimistic and hopeful for change when I wrote, but of course it has, as usual, crashed again.

I hope you are taking care of yourself too.

Best wishes,

Historylover

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Hi @Historylover

I was yelling "YES" at my phone last night when I typed a lengthy reply with a couple of examples (which didn't post for some reason - probably operator error). Anyway, I just wanted to say that I understand and have struggled with the same sort of thing for as long as I can remember. Another shared experience for us. Take care, RedHorse 🌹🐴

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Good to hear from you @RedHorse Sometimes these posts can get out of context and I'm not quite sure what you are referring to....that you are excluded from cliques, that your life goes in swings and roundabouts? All? None? Please clarify for me so that I can learn a little more about what you have experienced.


I'm sitting here with a bag of liquorice allsorts. A couple of weeks ago my pc was wearing out and, as it was during lockdown, I had to buy it online and click and collect. I went to play an instructional cd yesterday and found it didn't have that ability. I was dumbstruck. Every time, a little less function for a little more money. I then put the cd into my television to play. I had never used it for that before and had no idea how to. It seems it doesn't, and my cd is stuck in the back and I can't play it or get it out. My television, in the last few weeks, has lost data input and all channels associated with ABC and SBS - my favourites. I bought a new television and found the same problems. It seems to be a problem with the antenna or cable port, so the agent is getting someone to look into it. Currently only channel 44 so I'm not viewing.

Nothing here has changed much. I may be able to shower tomorrow or Monday. And the kitchen may be started next week..here's hoping. I'm looking forward to eating normally again. And showering. But you are quite familiar with all of these difficulties, aren't you?

So not a good week but the liquorice allsorts are good. Chocolate coated honeycomb next. Really 'pigging out!'

Edit: but on a lighter note, I went shopping and found $10.00 on the footpath on my way home. Every cloud........ and at 7.00 p.m this evening, my kaboodle kitchen has just arrived ready for installation.

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Oh no @Historylover, I just typed a really long reply and got an 'Authentication Failed' message. Truly nothing ever works for me either 🤦😓 Short version: I was referring mainly to being excluded from social cliques but also feel my life is a series of swings, roundabouts and obstacle courses. I'll have another go at explaining myself if I feel up to it tomorrow. Right now I need to take my night time meds and get ready for bed. Goodnight, RedHorse.

Edit: Apparently there is still a problem with an invalid HTML link that I know nothing about... Sigh 😣 I hope this version works

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@RedHorse I know what you mean regarding 'Authentication Failed'. It has happened to me a number of times and is so frustrating. Whether it has something to do with the time it took to post - I am not sure, but that has been so with my failed posts, and if you are on your phone that would really slow you down.

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Haha @Historylover It has happened twice more:

1. I've decided to leave the story of my being frozen out of an off-the-grid group in the past and focus on what I can do in the now;

2. You are certainly having a bad run with PC/DVD/TV 🤦 I hope your agent can get the channels sorted soon;

3. Hooray to the arrival of your kaboodle kitchen. 🎉 That's one step closer to normality;

4. I wonder if you got to have a shower🚿 today? I did and I feel sooo much better; and

5. I wish you a pleasant first week of August.

Take care of yourself, RedHorse 🌹🐴

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Just had my first shower for over a week, @RedHorse. Sitting here in my pyjamas, wrapped up in a doona.

The handy man who is doing all my renovations fixed my television too. He is amazing. Kitchen is partially installed. Perhaps quite a few more days before I'll be back in there. Looking forward to the change.

Perhaps if you have a library nearby, you could join and use their public computers. I used to do all my computer work at mine before I reconnected last year. Just a thought.

Anyway - happy August to you too. Spring is just around the corner. Take care!

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