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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Hello everyone 
What things have you got in place to help you daily with everything that is going on in our lives whn you are feeling anxious, worried , yuk, concerned, annoyed, in a panic,
self care is soo inportant for us all
it is not being selfish , it is very much needed to keep us keeping on
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
@Jynx , @Healandlove
That is great advice @Jynx
I think I used vibes and body language to express myself that my husband knows when there is a point
Yes , at times I do feel loneliness and sometimes I feel like a mum than a wife
Learning more about adhd, asd is helpful
He loses things and spent 2 hours turning the house upside down tonight looking for it 😅
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JynxModerator
@Shaz51 omg hahaha hello me, I do that! And for stuff that isn't even that important too, like I get locked onto the task of finding it even if it doesn't matter that much!!
That sucks, feeling more mum than wife at times. Be a tricky one to talk to Mr Shaz about too, that RSD can be gnarly, be soooo hard for him not to take it personally.... do you think it's worth broaching the topic or nah?
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Ha ha yep Mr shaz every day 😍
RSD stands for?
Sounds like a good topic , not sure how to do a introduction , would you like to help me @Jynx
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JynxModerator
Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria @Shaz51 more info here if you're curious!! Be happy to help you out!! I am about to log off so maybe tomorrow? Do some brainstorming hehe
Niiiight 💜
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Great @Jynx
Brain storming tomorrow my friend 🧡
Sleep well and see you tomorrow
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ZolSenior Contributor
Re Coping.
I tey to have a routine, but im not great at it.
So I find something that I've neglected / not done for a while / bothering me and I resolve it.
This could be doing the dishes, or tidying an area that needs it. Recycling or disposing of things I no longer want or need.
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JynxModerator
Happy Wednesday dear @Shaz51 how has your day been hun?
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JynxModerator
Oh yes yes yes @Zol what a splendid idea!! Taking care to nurture what has fallen by the wayside sounds like a pretty good overall life philosophy too!
Have you gotten stuck into any interesting 'neglected' projects of late? I'm curious cos I'm in the midst of de-cluttering and always like hearing others' tales!
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Hello 😊 @Jynx
Thank you for the information you sent me last night , very interesting
Today Mr shaz had a dentist appointment
Travelling 30 minutes there and back in the pouring rain 🌧
Lots of flooding around up here cutting the highway in some parts , but we are OK
A lot better day today
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JynxModerator
@Shaz51 you are so welcome hun!! The other two 'pillars' from that blog are also very good, I always share them because of the fact that they take a very non-pathologising stance! Here -
First Pillar - Interest-based Nervous System
Second Pillar - Emotional Hyperarousal
Oh noooo rain-driving always scary for me!! And to the dentist? Does Mr S find the dentist super anxiety-provoking? Eep!
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