My partner has ocd and a spectrum

Hi @Diannegrey59 and welcome to the forum.

Sounds like an ambivalent kind of relationship with this man. I do not like that he sees you as a pest because of disability, especially since he seems a difficult person to love and be with himself. But since you love him, I am guessing there are good things about him too, hopefully about the way he treats you as well.

Relationships are so different one from the other so I do not wish to give advice there. Just to acknowledge that you are going through difficulties with this relationship and to say I am hearing you. It can get more complicated when, as with me, I am fairly dependent on my partner, due to my own mental and physical disabilities. It gets difficult between us about that sometimes. Mostly the bad far outweighs the good.

Wishing you well and hoping that others on the forum may respond with their own perspectives, such as @Shaz51 who cares for a partner with a mental health condition. Shaz is also great at bringing people together on the forum, and may be able to help with connecting to more of the reciprocal support many of us find here.

In the meantime, feel free to jump into any discussion thread that you are drawn to. Using the search bar on the main page of the Lived Experience forum may help you find more info.

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Ohh thank you @Mazarita

Hello @Diannegrey59

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