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These are very valid feelings @Paulette , and very natural.

Do you have someone you trust who you can work through these feelings with? These feelings are not something that can be forgotten in a day. They take time, and in that process, you will grow as a person.

Sitting with you, tyme

Hi @Former-Member ,

Thankyou for your advice and support. I'm too hurt. I've had too much advice from the very people who removed my children. I'm very much beyond any help. I have developed a very deep hatred for these type of people, I'm afraid. Nothing will ever change my situation and I refuse to ever attend so called parenting courses. I know I am not possessing a low IQ. I do not have to be'taught' how to be a parent. For what it is worth I am considering studying. I also wonder when I simply leave a job and possibly get evicted in order to study parenting skills. All of which I have said before when this was being rammed down my throat.

Hi @tyme ,

It's such a battle. Sometimes I'm numb if it's possible with the pain. I do have a loving partner but I often alternate between deep anger and then theres silence. He tries to help. Asks me to hug but I'm too consumed with equal parts anger and pain. I have called the sane line but I was informed I should not use the line if I am in crisis, this came from a peer support worker. It was hard to explain that at times I just need to hear someone is listening without judgement and no crisis was being experienced when I called. Had bad experience with Lifeline..... It was suggested I call them. I have had much support on the sane line. Not sure why we are persuaded not to seek help which is available over the phone and potentially keeps us out of Hospital. I understand there is a high demand on the sane line but it saves lives.

Hey @Paulette

Maybe you could try our guided service? It is a 12 week program that can help with the complexities of mental health outside of crisis. It may be a more helpful service as your circumstances are ongoing at the moment.

https://www.sane.org/referral

I hear you @Paulette ,

I'm glad you hear that you have been able to reach out in the past. I'd encourage you to continue doing so, whether it be on SANE or crisis services.

I also wanted to point out that it is true that SANE is not a crisis service (as you have been told). This means, that dealing with crises is beyond our scope of service and should people should then be referred to specific 'crisis services' such as suicide call back service, or lifeline - people working here are trained to manage crises in a way that SANE cannot provide. This is probably why the person on the SANE phone line mentioned that. Please know it is not because we do not care, or that the phone line is busy.

It is actually mandatory that we refer those in crisis to crisis services.

On the flip side, i think what you said about just wanting someone to listen, is so important. Perhaps this is something you can emphasise on the phone? You have made a valid point there and if I was on the phone, I'd want to speak to you 🙂

I hope this clears up a few thoughts or questions you may have. Happy to answer any other questions.

Kindest, tyme

Hey @Snowie

I've just made a cuppa for you. I am logging off soon but I'll be waiting to hear what you have to say for when I see you next

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Hey @creative_writer,

Been thinking about you this week, hope your research proposal went ok

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Hi @tyme,

Lifeline workers are rarely counsellors. They are volunteers not counsellors. Please note this. Your stock standard response is boring and by the book and personally I would hope never to speak to you in distress. I am positive you are not a psychologist but a pretender.

Thanks @Former-Member

I hope the day has been kind to you