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How to cultivate self-worth??

Janis_JCasual Contributor11 June 2021, 6:49 pm AEST

How to cultivate self-worth??

Hello all,

I'm new to the community here, & new to the forums at all actually!

I recently got officially diagnosed, however have known for about 3+ years that my struggles would be labelled BPD. I've been doing self-work for those 3 years, and only recently started therapy. I have made progress towards recovery, but nowhere close to being there yet. Although... I have finally been seeing small changes in my reactions and behaviours after ALOT of practicing and trying!

Anyways, hello! I hope you're all doing ok !!

My question is: What have you done to increase you sense of self-worth and to shift away from the deep internalised belief of unworthiness?

This issue plagues me endlessly. And everytime I have a behavioural issue (meltdown, rage attack, tantrum etc) then I feel so much shame I spiral out on self-loathing and unworthiness.

I try to practice self-compassion, but it is so hard. I know I need to keep sticking at it...

What else helps convince yourself that you are actually truly worthy of life/friends/love/existence etc.? What practices do you use to deal with unworthiness?

Pls help & TIA!

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OaktreeSenior Contributor11 June 2021, 10:41 pm AEST

Re: How to cultivate self-worth??

@Pato

Thanks so much for providing that link for Jess O'Garr and schema therapy. I have just spent the last hour watching her videos. My psychologist wants to do memory rescripting with me but I have found the idea of it terrifying so it was good to see the theory behind it all. It helps to understand the theory so I can understand how the therapy is going to work. I heard from my psychologist today and unfortunately it's going to be at least another 4-6 weeks before she has an opening for me to resume therapy (we have been on a break due to my ill health late last year/beginning of this year). I look at trauma therapy like eating my vegies. I don't want to do it but think it will be good for my health in the long run.

Meggle

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Janis_JCasual Contributor12 June 2021, 9:21 am AEST

Re: How to cultivate self-worth??

@Pato It sounds like you found an amazing therapist for you if she can pull that off successfully!

I can see why that would be helpful, my partner has a similar approach which I find very useful.

Thanks for sharing some of your experience

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PatoSenior Contributor12 June 2021, 10:53 am AEST

Re: How to cultivate self-worth??

@Oaktree wrote:
My psychologist wants to do memory rescripting with me but I have found the idea of it terrifying so it was good to see the theory behind it all. It helps to understand the theory so I can understand how the therapy is going to work.
Meggle

Yeah it's tough but effective to some degree. I think its worth it in the long run too. I hope your health stays good and you are able to achieve what you want too. Keep it in touch and let us all know how you go.

Thanks.

Pato

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