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Unsupportive Partner

Unsupportive Partner

Does anyone else have an unsupportive partner? I've been with my husband for 4 years, we were married 2 years ago. 2 years ago my mother fell terribly I'll & I believe this triggered my anxiety & depression. I am no longer depressed but my anxiety has been hanging like a dark cloud & causes conflicts within our relationship due to the lack of understanding of my husband. I have given him brochures from my Psychologist & I email him articles that I relate with. He can't 'fix' it so says I have to sort it. Even though I explain I don't want him to fix it, I want him to just simply support me.

Since I recognise I have anxiety, I now see that I've had it since I was a child. It wasn't until I was an adult and able to control my own life that my anxiety settled. I do remember a few anxious times but nothing like it has been these past few years. I started meds 6 weeks ago & have been feeling on top of the world again .... but in the past 2 days I feel like I did before meds. I am currently having an anxiety attack. I feel withdrawn, tired (even though I have had plenty of sleep), miserable, useless etc etc ... Hubby & I have had a huge blew because of my withdrawal. I'm tired of being this way. I want it to stop. He seems to think I choose to be this way! When I ask other people about this, they just say,my hats men, they don't understand.

PS I'm just about to see my doctor!

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Re: Unsupportive Partner

@pip. I'm sorry to hear your relationship was so hard. My ex FIL used to belittle his wife as she has 3 years of primary school education (3rd world country). Whereas he went to uni. But guess what? He chose her. And she is one of the nicest women I've ever met. & she made sure that all of her 8 children - including the girls got uni education too. She's so muchssmarter than he'll ever be. Lol.
Some people are just nasty - who get their kicks from putting people down. Some just happen to be men.
I'm glad you are not in that relationship / environment any longer.

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@Brokenpincess I reply to your comment regarding males spans I would have to say you are generalising.
Generalising is not good and unfair to all sexes, races, etc.
I for one am fully aware and understanding of mental illness or any other issues. Always been a listener and helped where I could.

I think we should keep generalisation out of all posts.
We don't want others to generalise a mental illness as we are all different
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