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Christmas, the SAD side 😞

Christmas, the SAD side 😞

Christmas is so stressful for so many of us,bits really hard to get into the 'spirit' of it all when battling illness, loss, reminders of loss, empty chairs, llonelines, financial strain...

WHAT MAKES CHRISTMAS HARD FOR YOU, AND WHY.

I just wanna create a space where we can vent the thoughts and feelings tabu or misunderstood by so many. Of cause there's good mixed in ok but we don't like spoiling their fun, so when it gets you down come here say it.

LONELINESS is a big one, our poor @Adge is waiting on his 10th Christmas alone, but this year is even worse because COVID has caused council to shut down their only community Christmas lunch he looked fwd to. This year looks to feel extra ALONE for Adge and he's already sad because if it. And that's on top of losing his job recently. I feel for you Adge 💙💙💙

Its just me and an adult son in the Big Smoke who recharges best in his own company and finds Christmas 'get-to-gethers' a chore I think, an interruption to his limited time off work... (or so he makes me feel). It doesn't help that he's lost faith in the concept of 'family' after coming from a broken home and losing his sister (to asthma) suddenly when he was 21. He's right, or 'family' is shattered and I don't feel it anymore. He's become someone I know really well, and love and care about... but since he abandoned me to spend Christmas with his girlfriends family interstate acfewvyears back... and constantly talks of moving overseas permanently, yep, I can't depend on Christmas in loving company. Its a sad time.

TELL ME WHAT YOU FIND HARD ABOUT CHRISTMAS THIS YEAR?

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That’s what I say at Easter @Adge and now our Passover is bigger than Ben Hur!

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Christmas as a kid sucked. We hardly celebrated it. I remember one year my brothers got bikes. I was so excited only to find out the folks couldn't afford a gift for me yet but one would come later. Shitest Christmas ever.

When my kids were small it was so amazing. I literally cried with joy every Christmas (I cry a lot). How full of joy and wonder little souls can be.

They're older now. As soon as they were teens it became more of an unappreciated chore that my folks expected me to host and prepare for everyone.

Last year I just ran away from it. It was a relief. This year I plan on sitting with my son and mother for the day and then just walking out the next day leaving my assets with them. I no longer want any of it and I no longer want to be a part of society in general. Ill be homeless, penniless and ill be walking around with no plan and no clue.

Merry Christmas

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Haha @Adge, seen the group tgerapy one before 😃👍 love it!

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@Judi9877said:
"My feet are officially past the sore mark as I've been shopping and I'm over it! I'm sick of car parks, sick of lining up to pay for things and sick of driving a manual car! I just want to stay home, chill and possibly sleep for a bit. Oh, and come on here of course as well as check out Facebook and stuff!
I'm planning on doing a special thread for the holiday period @Bunniekins so I'll post it later where forumites can hang out if they don't feel like celebrating Christmas or can't for whatever reason or maybe just aren't in the Christmas spirit. What do you think? I'd like it to go for maybe the Christmas Eve to early January break when things are quieter or maybe shut down. Anyway, that's the idea of course. Just wait and see what happens! Judi9877☺️
(hope you don't mind me reposting your post here Judi9877 it's just so fitting) 👍

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This is called "Conditional Love" (it's not Unconditional).....

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Yep, I Really Do know the Feeling...

Especially unemployed at Christmas time....

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Some dark humour for the day 💚

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Hi @Adge I've been thinking of you on & off all day, concerned how your day's going,vyou and others like you alone for the day. I was almost one of you but my son saw the light and came for 24hrs - which worked well. Apart from having to lay down every couple of hrs re back pain, He's ok and we had a good time.
What did you get up to? How was the weather? Pleasant here 🍒💚🍒

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Hi @TAB &;@Snowie
Merry Christmas 💚🍒💚
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