Being vulnerable Bremen Brown

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Hi @Powderfinger 🙂

I read your post and I will respond soon. I need to unwind, otherwise I will not get to sleep. But I will say, its important to get to know people slowly and only share with someone that you are comfortable with (information too)....

@Powderfinger I am sorry you have been hurt by being vulnerable and open and honest with others. And would dare say you have been too trusting. I think many people with MI are too trusting, me included. Just remember its a reflect on them not you and there lack of character. I know you would never treat anyone like that. You have bought up an interesting topic and I am sure others will respond too. I was going to go to bed, but I knew I couldn't sleep. I hope to catch up with you soon.. Take care

@oceangirl

I hope you got some sleep. I had a very difficult night last night with sleep. Got up at 7:30 and by 9am I was back in bed. I cried for the first time in weeks. The tears have been waiting.

I don't trust easily now. I'm yet to determine if it is really trust issues like people often say. I'm.tired of everyone determining everything for me.

It's an interesting topic though. I'm.reslly upset today so I am probably just not explaining things well and I keep.wantinh to fall.asleep.

Hope to chat more with you.

Ramble.

Hi again @Powderfinger

My sleep was good once I got to sleep- I spend most of the day in bed but that is ok. I try not too put too much pressure on myself in regards to my sleep. You're explaining yourself well, you do what is best for you. I hope you feel better by letting out your emotions. I'm trying to get organized and feed my two dogs. Talk to you soon...

@oceangirl

That's ok. If that's where you need to be, that's where you.need to be. I hope you managed to get energy to.walk.your two.dogs.

Hi @Powderfinger

I love that you've written this

I'm probably the worst when it comes to vulnerability... I weld it!

Like a sword, I hold it up before me and those who seek to use it against me are struck aside, with no place in my life. If they can't handle the pain and trauma that created me they just don't deserve me at my best. That love, compassion and support is best given to those who are ready to use it.

I have learnt the hard way how to turn things like vulnerability which seem like a liability to me into an asset

And you're right, often times how we feel just doesn't need fixing

@Shazi55

It ios very painful when it is being done to you. I am not at a stage in my life where I am strong enough to take anymore betrayals. I see it as a betrayal. Like you, do it to me once and we are done indefinitely. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me type deal. My thoughts are the hardest things to deal with. Sometimes my own thoughts lie to me. Thats the thing it does depend on what type of vulnerability was exposed and every single different circumstance that was done in. I cannot even talk about it. There are just too many and I really should not go into them. It just puts me in too much of a dark place. I really love what you wrote back ❤️

@Powderfinger

It's such a very personal thing!

And something no one can even suggest let alone advise us on how to deal with or what we feel about being vulnerable.

Hats off to you for making your choices and sticking to them!

Vulnerability is such a personal thing and it's certainly your choice who you are vulnerable with, and then, how much. One thing I've heard Brene talk about on a few ocassions in her books is sharing your story with people who have earned the right to hear it, with those who, in her words 'embrace us for our strengths and our struggles'. To me, this doesn't mean opening up to everyone, but being selective about who we share with, and then what we share with that person. I've certainly found that certain people in my life have more helpful responses to different things. For example, there are some members of my family I wouldn't go too deep into my emotions with, because they aren't comfortable with emotions and immediately try to shut it down- they haven't earned the right to hear that story. It's also about the people who have been there for you, time and time again. Sometimes, my cue is that these people have shared, been vulnerable and let me into their story.

In case you're interested, the thing Brene is possibly most well known for which may interest you is her Ted Talk on vulnerability.