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CestmoiContributor
As a carer, I find it worrying and scary when left to deal with my son's serious mental issues when the professional people and clinic will not support him. How am I meant to cope?
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G2796Casual Contributor
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CestmoiContributor
Thank you, that option is a very good one. It has been draining me having my son so hyper manic; it may be a good thing for him to speak to someone else
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CestmoiContributor
I understood what you meant, thanks
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WinterSunSenior Contributor
Hi @Cestmoi
As a carer under stress you would be eligible to access visits to a psychologist to help you to cope with caring for your son. Your gp can help arrange this for you.
The role of carers is vastly underrated by medical professionals, many who only see the patient in a short window then send them back to be carers if they are lucky.
Often we are not included in the planning of care because of patients rights but there is no problem with us being the ones to carry the load.
Its unjust and unfair.
Please take care of yourself too.
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CestmoiContributor
Thank you. I will be seeing my GP soon and will make arrangements. Yes, it is so unfair. My husband and I find it very hard because my son is an adult. We've had to take his medication & he is angry, feeling out of control. I don't know why mental clinics are turning away patients, sending them home when they are CLEARLY not well. I have cried so much in the last few days, feeling so helpless
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DottieNew Contributor
I can totally relate it's not ok that parents have to deal with acutely unwell adult children when we are not professionals and can only muddle through
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CestmoiContributor
Thank you for your understanding Dottie. It has been 2 days and it feels like forever, since my son came home. By 9am this morning, I felt worn out, continually walking on eggshells- in case I say or do anything to escalate my son's hyper mania. I am trying to get some relief care. It is so hard, especially being the weekend.
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WinterSunSenior Contributor
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CestmoiContributor
Thank you for checking in on me WinterSun. Today I had a bit of relief for a couple of hours while my son went out with his friend. Altogether, it has been very hard and sad, especially when my son becomes quite remorseful for his behaviour. Being the weekend, trying to get the right kind of help has been frustrating. My daughter has been researching on some contacts to call tomorrow when, hopefully, the offices will be open. I am very angry with the lack of proper support, considering the money that the Government says they are putting towards mental health.
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