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I had a good session with my counsellor yesterday. She explained to me the three different states of mind. Emotional mind, reason mind or logical mind & wise mind. If anyone has some info on this it would be worth posting it as I connected with myself being the emotional mind. If a trigger occrs my emotional mind kicks in. My councellor said we need to try and let the wise mind take hold as he is a bit emotional and logical, not one or the other. It's a lot of work but take things issue by issue, day by day, be kind to yourself and breathe.
I think the emotional mind 'instant felt response' if you like is a powerful link to our inner world. That is our sacred place of being. It's hard not to react upon this instant response when triggered. Being gentle on yourself is key. Maybe next time a situation arises just be with your 'first emotion'..let it rise & fall. Walk away from the confrontation if need be, rip up paper, punch a pillow, whatever it's doing to you, let it out. Once passed let your calmer, wiser mind kick in. I'm visual or cope better when I'm doing, so I draw on this as my coping tool. Do you think there is something you can draw upon to divert the force of the emotional? Maybe. ❤
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Re: States of mind
Hi @B45,
Great post – I’ve also found this idea really helpful when trying to work with difficult thoughts and emotions. I find it’s so effective in its simplicity, and it helps foster a faith that there is something within me that can integrate the different aspects of my experience, puts me in touch with my own inner wisdom. I think it's really powerful and works a lot more for me than playing the rational game of “thought challenging” which usually ends in “I know that BUT I feel this” - wise mind gives me a way to say “I know that AND I feel this”
I found this great diagram the other day too – summed it up really nicely!
supernova
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
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Challenging a thought sets up a dualistic and adversarial state of affairs. Most people need to be at peace with themselves not at war, but also interactive with others. Breaking the mind up into 3 parts helps is beautiful and simple and the wise mind is integrative.
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