My Mosaic

You’re not a terrible mum @Bow. Maybe today she is just happy hanging around. You are still both grieving. It may just be her way.

I hope your meds are dropped off and you can go to bed and stay safe tonight.

Im sorry the thoughts have been too consuming

@Bow Kids have bad day as much as anyone hun, maybe you two can chat about both having a rough time right now and and have a crappy day together? Hope the sleepies do catch you both in a hasty fashion once your meds arrive 🤞💜

Meds have been had.

@Jynx @Captain24 D just prefer to be on her iPad a lot of the time. I do try. I try to put in the effort of a weekend to do things with her

@Bow My nephew is similar. Also tends to get more irritable if he spends too much time on youtube. A... disturbing trend to be sure. Is she also on youtube a lot?

I hope your meds help you tonight @Bow

I think it is normal for kids to want to be on their ipads/phones. Try not to take is personally. My kids are always on their devices. Sometimes I just have to drag them out of their rooms.

Yeah @Jynx she watches other play minecraft a lot on YouTube. Really don’t see how that’s entertaining?

D loses her cool @Snowie if I hide her iPad. I put it away in her room clearly on her dresser one morning this week, after she left it on the couch when she went to school. Comes home in the afternoon and asked where it was and I told her I hid it. Within a couple of minutes she’s having a meltdown.

I really wish I had put in place some very clear rules when I gifted it to her last Christmas.

it just comes in handy, which is where I feel like shit about…. Like when I am on the treadmill for hours, I at least know she is kept busy. But then when I am off it and free to do something with her, she doesn’t want to.

I did the same thing when my kids were younger @Bow Let them have it whilst I was busy with something else. I think most parents would have done the same.

Sometimes it is hard to know how much we let them use their devices. Mine are ok but I do ban their phones from the dinner table. That is family time.

@Bow never too late to implement some ground rules. I think she could be especially receptive if you had a little chat to her about how it might impact her cognitive development. She may not listen/understand too much (I remember hearing stuff about tv rotting my brain when I was a kid, I didn't really listen ahahaha) but ensuring she knows there's a reason/it's not a punishment might help. Just food for thought! I even found a lil article about it, here. And don't worry, the screens-as-babysitters trend has been around forever, I think it's extremely common.

I don't understand watching others play video games either 😅 I feel the same about watching sport tbh. Why would I watch someone else having fun when I myself could be the one having the fun.

@Bow hoping you got some sleep last night and today goes well for you.

Take care hon 💌💌

Thanks @Snowie sun is shining here today and D wants to build more Lego, which I am up for once I’ve had a shower.

thanks @Jynx sorry I fell asleep! That article was a good read and has given me a little confidence to maybe approach a conversation with my D to set up some rules. The resistance and the tantrums are gonna be real, but things gotta change! Wish me luck!