@Bow funny thing... fluffy talk, wishful thinking? Ain't automatically bad in my books. Nah, to me, they're as important as anything, perhaps most important of all. Because.... Hmm how do I summarise lol
Okay think of like... a really driven, motivated person, who is absolutely deadset on learning guitar. Do you reckon they get better at it when they imagine themself as a rockstar, or when they imagine themself as a gutter-rat?
The way we imagine our futures is SO IMPORTANT.... cos if we only picture pain and misery, that's all we're gonna be subconsciously moving towards. If we think fluffy thoughts about a life that we will cherish, then that's what we're gonna start moving towards instead!! Or at least... that's what I've found in my own recovery anyway.
Do you remember when we dreamed up your perfect lil cottage? That wasn't wishful thinking hun, that was you imagining and building hope for a future that looks different to the one that I imagine has felt inevitable for a while. But nothing, NOTHING is set in stone. And the more we focus on the fluffy thoughts, the less time the yucky ones are taking up brain space!
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Yes for sure, big tired is very likely after a floaty day like today. Did you manage to check on your little one? No guilt if you didn't hun, you can only do what you can do. I thought I'd ask cos then maybe we can start talking about next steps till bedtime?