Anyone germaphobic with OCD?

Hi I've got another post but thought I'd start a new one.

looking to reach out to others with OCD I think finding others like me may help me cope and is the main reason I joined despite many issues. To know my backstory feel free to read my other post.

my OCD has gotten worse over time esp this year alongside with my many struggles which have manifested as OCD. I've lived with my parents the past 5 yrs as I've had nowhere to go and their living standard is not clean and I can't control it so it gets worse and now I literally stay in my room, don't eat, lost 25kgs for many reasons. But I know the OCD has a mind of it's own and it becomes irrational but I can't stop it. I think of germs 24/7 I don't want to touch anything, clean anything. I used to clean after everyone but I got fed up with it. They basically made us leave home coz of it along with my dependent child so now I jus avoid it so we have somewhere to live as I had no choice but to return. They are abusive Also if that wasn't obvious who kicks out a child to the street. Not the 1st time. The main things are the cat has flees so I freak whenever I find cat hair which is on all our clothes and also she doesn't clean herself, has faeces on her butt even found some on the sofa as she always sits there I would constantly put a sheet over it and mum refused to clean and keeps taking sheet off and I don't want anyone sitting there. There's also faeces on the carpet and my daughter walks barefoot. Mum wipes it then doesn't wash her hands and I find constantly on the door handle that everyone touches so my thinking is everything got faeces which I know it gets a bit silly. Mum likes putting her hands in the bin to touch rubbish sort recycling and then doesn't wash her hands then prepares food. I used to clean everything it was exhausting daily so know I jus freak. I can't be in the same room as her it's too stressful. She will put her hands in rubbish then get clean clothes off the line so I feel dirty constantly even after a shower coz I know she's touched the towel and all the clothes and also after touching the door she brings home the shopping so all the food is dirty I won't eat coz of it. I found a cockroach in the fridge months ago and she hasn't cleaned the fridge for 2 yrs so I won't touc the fridge this is why I've given up in food it's happened many times I think they come from the apples. Then if the cat food is touching other food I won't eat it and then everything's dirty. I know the basics are rational but then what my mind decides is dirty is not and I really need help with it. I've tried meds they don't work for me I had to stop. I've tried changing my perspective around some of it. I'm trying so had to get my own place and can't wait for the day I can clean everything! But also the idea of that is jus silly. I can't live like this. I'm looked at by everyone like I'm crazy for not being like her. And also she will do things jus to annoy me coz she's a narc..