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B45Senior Contributor
I'm working through my anxiety but had a trigger yesterday & I fell back down. Suicidal thoughts - not that I would, asking myself what can I do. No one to talk to & see counsellor in a few days. I feel scared that I can't cope. I do though have a few positive moments.
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DecadianSenior Contributor
Hi @B45
May I take this chance to welcome you into our website
About triggers - I wonder if there is ever a way of getting rid of them - maybe there is but I have discovered myself that they happen and the sky can seem as if it's falling and it seems we have fallen back to the beginning - and - - - - -
Was that a waste of time?
No it wasn't - we are human and we will sometimes surge ahead and sometimes slip back
But we have learned a lot in the meantime - and so we have something to build on and something to aim for every time this happens
And no need at all to apologize - we have a good idea about how tough it can be when we back-slide
You are in good comany
Decadian
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utopiaSenior Contributor
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
A lot of people have "neighbour" issues. I never really noticed it as thing for me until we moved into our 2nd house and the neighbour fessed up how much he had hated the previous owners ... I was in late 30s by then ..
since then I have seen a few weird and wonderful things ... about neighbours ... if it is any help .. chat about it online between visits ...
I guess I have been luckier than most but I have heard and read about some real dooozies ... its hard when there are children and other family relationships involved .. and everyone takes a different stand ...
there is so much emphasis on individual rights .. we forget to be a family ..hubby should try harder to understand .. but mine did not want to understand me .. he wanted to beat me .. stupid really ..
or we foret to be a neighbourhood ... gradually I am learning not to be too upset by ... things that happen in my street .. but still do my thing ..
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B45Senior Contributor
Hi everyone, thanks so much for your comments & support. I'm feeling much better today but gee it rattles you when you go backwards. I had a chat to hubby the other morning & told him about the suicidal thoughts, his comment "that's silly". He is now coming to a counselling session with me!! I got in touch with my counsellor & also rang Lifeline. I only have one good friend to talk to so I need to get hubby on board cause it certainly helps talking to people who understand & can reassure.
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DecadianSenior Contributor
Hi @B45
It seems a few people have been able to respond to your post and this is what we do
We can understand people - and reassure
It's great that you have been onto your councellor and rang Life Line - and the best thing - you have your husband on board -
But it is horrible to be alone when things pile up and those triggers start - also - it's very helpful to know what those triggers are - knowing in advance can take some of the power away from them
Decadian
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utopiaSenior Contributor
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
@B45 @utopia
Me too ❣
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B45Senior Contributor
Thanks @Faith-and-Hope & @utopia for your support. Once you get over a setback I think reflecting on it may help. I feel so up and down. It can be frustrating cause you want to feel on top all the time but that isn't life. It is a fact there will always be ups & downs, it's how you deal with them. It is hard to think clearly when you are heading down. I think for me its learning to think positively on that downward spiral. The other issue I have is letting go of that feeling that something bad may happen. Hubby is a logical thinker so I could learn a bit from him.
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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