Need to vent

Yes it is a very hard time for both of you at the moment

And he would be feeling right out of his comfort zone just like you and this is when you need each other to get through this @BlueBay

Like us when we had our fire ( our decision was to build or not to rebuild) --- Mr shaz was soo worried, stressed, and we even had the house plans drawn up

But we are not going to rebuild because it is too much on us

I wish and pray that there is a lovely house around the corner that you both love @BlueBay

Has you D suggested anything or looked at the houses with you

hi @Shaz51 @traveller @Charis

thanks for your support this morning.

we ended up going for a coffee, walk and drive around and saw two small townhouses close by to use.

i think now that hubby is wanting something for me closer to the beach as then I can walk down here by myself. i think he wants a small place so then we can quickly clean it, close the door and go away travelling every so often. he doesn't want a big house because he said it's too much cleaning for me and doesn't want that. he wants a very simple house, simple life.

so we will wait and see, we have emailed agent to see this townhouse/unit near us. it is a little bit more (still affordable for us with a reduced home loan) and will be in same area.

i think our kids have had enough with our chop and change all the time. but i feel they understand that we need to put ourselves first; our finances need to be reduced to be able to live a better quality life and our health and for the future. no point in buying a big 4 bd home if all i will do is clean - there's more to life than cleaning a house.

i am sorry i really felt so overwhelmed this morning. seeing hubby upset really got to me.

need to take one step at a time. i am so glad i am seeing my GP first thing tomorrow morning and then my pyschiatrist; i really need to let it all out and talk.

i can only imagine @Shaz51 how tough it's been for you and hubby with building or deciding not to. the stress is huge and it starts to put pressure on the relationship.

hugs @Shaz51 xxxxooo

Ohhhh I have my fingers and toes and nose crossed for getting the town house @BlueBay my sister and I know how much you love the beach

And yes you don't need a big house to make it your home 🤞❤❤🙏

Down sizing sounds wise @BlueBay . I also hope that you can find the perfect place around the corner from you.

Hugs

@BlueBay 💗💗

I feel so sick

dizzy nauseous snd blah

i feel I’m about to have a breakdown

stress exhaustion worry dread panic

it’s all coming at once

worried about hubby too

@BPDSurvivor @Shaz51 @Snowie @traveller

Sounds like you have a lot on your mind @BlueBay

Can you just try and concentrate on just one thing at the moment?

Ohh hugs my sister @BlueBay and sitting with you

Have a cuppa with you xx

thanks my lovely friend @Shaz51

my hubby has taken 3 days off work and seeing my doctor tomorrow. he is so stressed.

he asked our son for some money and his reply to him was 'mum should get a job'!!!!

what the hell!! how inconsiderate; does he not understand mental illness. i feel so guilty for how our finances are at the moment. it's my fault/

do you know how hard i am trying to get better; how my anxiety, stress and depression is so high right now that i couldn't even think of going to work. and then theres the stress of finances, house etc

how the hell do i go to work when i have no confidence, feeling so so depressed.

i saw my GP this morning and broke down. i told him i am trying to be strong for hubby and myself but i can't. i just can't be strong for both of us. my blood pressure was high which he feels is from high anxiety.

then saw my psych who when i saw her said i am very stressed, anxious and affecting my physical health ie. headaches, sleep, eating and blood pressure.

i can't eat because i feel so sick; the anxiety is taken over.

@Snowie @BPDSurvivor @Emelia8 @hanami @tyme