Needing advice on moving forward

Hi @Cormax

Welcome to the SANE forums! It's great to have you here and thanks for telling the community a bit about yourself. I'm sure the forum members will be able to offer you support, information and connection.

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Take care.

Whitehawk

Hi there,

I can relate to your situation. After leaving a very bad 20 yr marriage a few years ago, I finally hit some counseling for the same reason. Turns out I'm in a trauma bond with the ex. After googling what a Trauma Bond is, everything makes so much more sense now, and basically having zero contact (if possible) and understanding that i was not the cause or deserving of their behaviour is helping me. Still triggered at times, but getting better. Worth researching to see if that resonates for you too. Best of luck 🤞

Thank you overloaded for that advice I will look into it and see what it explains, thank you again greatly appreciated