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Raising Awareness of BPD - Flipping the Script

BPDSurvivorSenior Contributor07 Oct 2020, 2:24 am AEDT

Raising Awareness of BPD - Flipping the Script

Hi Everyone!

BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) is a highly misunderstood and stigmatised condition. For those who don't know, since 2011, each year 1st to 7th October is BPD AWARENESS WEEK.

This year 2020, the campaign was titled "Flipping the Script" to help people see the 'flip-side' to BPD and change the narrative on BPD. See more at BPDawareness.

As a continuation of raising awareness of BPD from tonight's Topic Tuesday// BPD Awareness– Flipping the script with a special guest from Spectrum// Tues 6th October,7 pm-8:30pm AEDT , I'm wondering if anyone would kindly share their experiences of BPD?

Over the years, I have found it quite challenging to find a social network of people with experiences of BPD. Hence I am hoping to create a network of people and a place where we can 'hang out', share resources, support each other, hear each other out, etc.

@Judi9877 @BlueBay @outlander @Determined @Shaz51 and anyone else.

I'd love to hear from you!

Cheers,

BPDSurvivor

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HombreContributor25 June 2021, 9:37 am AEST

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Today I am really in a mess. My daughter (who possibly has BPD but will not discuss tpsych stuff with me) has not spoken to me since Easter. She has sent texts but the last one basically said that she didn't want to hear from me.

I miss her terribly, and now she is in a COVID hot spot so I really need to know how/if she is coping.

The problem is that I am scared. When she replies with such rejection I feel suicidal (even more than most times) and I don't think that I can cope. I won't hurt myself, but the feeling is just so horrible, as you all know of course.

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moxiSenior Contributor25 June 2021, 10:13 am AEST

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It sounds like you're doing your best even though you're in a lot of pain, @Hombre

Do you have anything nice you can do for yourself today to give yourself a break from these difficult feelings?

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OaktreeSenior Contributor25 June 2021, 12:28 pm AEST

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@Hombre

Sorry you are in a mess today. You never stop worrying about your kids. I hope that you stay safe and find some way to distract yourself today.

Meggle

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Unknown userMember25 June 2021, 1:57 pm AEST

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Hi there @Hombre,

I'm sorry to hear how tough it is to be in the dark with your daughter. I really encourage you to reach out to the SANE Help Centre and speak to a counsellor for support on 1800 18 7263. You can also ring Suicide Call Back Service on 1300 659 467 when in crisis.

Take good care,

Sphinxly 🐣

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BPDSurvivorSenior Contributor25 June 2021, 7:49 pm AEST

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Hi @Hombre ,

I know you posted much earlier but I wanted to give you some space.

From a borderline's perspective, when I said I didn't want someone, it was more like 'Get away from me, don't leave me'. What helped me the most was knowing that that person was there. For me, I just needed a txt such as "I'm messaging to see if you are okay. Remember I'm here for you if you need me"... or along those lines.

What didn't help me:

- people continually phoning and txting to tell me what to do eg pick up the phone, answer me...

Even when I was upset and didn't answer, I knew the person was there, and that's what comforted me. In MY time, I answered.

As a borderline, I HATED being told what to do. My brain and emotions were sooooo out of control that my only 'control' was to rebel against what people said. It was my way of showing I was still in control.

So in a way, I'm not sure your daughter's resistance is ultimately targeted at you personally. If she DOES have BPD, perhaps it's a way of asserting her authority?

Please don't take it to heart. There is a beautiful person under all of it. It takes time to re-emerge.

Ive got so much I want to share with you, but im mindful of over taxing you during a difficult time.

Hang in there my friend. Im with you in this,

BPDSurvivor

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BPDSurvivorSenior Contributor25 June 2021, 7:56 pm AEST

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Above are common lines from a borderline, whether internalised or externalised.

BPDSurvivor

@BlueBay @Andrab @Judi9877 @WIP @Nells @Shaz51 @Aniela @JJ4 @vashi @BPDrose @Luca33 @Sarah_850 @Olliesmum @asdfge @SunflowerMe @magical_journey @Tbo @sarvan @Snoopy56 @Ellan @sanity41 @Laylah @Flossy92 @Bow @BPDSurvivor @Jacaranda84 @LouisianaM @Andrab @Theodora @Et68 @26aqua @LostAngel @Healing_Journey @TG1108 @BPDCarer1 @DJ228 @Name84 @TomRiddle32 @Dec @PAX1741 @Netty78 @PlantLover @Hannahbanana98 @Kaitlynjade97 @LearningWaters@Janis_J @Hombre @Oaktree

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Shaz51Senior Contributor25 June 2021, 8:02 pm AEST

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Hello @BPDSurvivor , @Oaktree , @Hombre how are you tonight

Hello @Former-Member , @moxi xc

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OaktreeSenior Contributor25 June 2021, 9:28 pm AEST

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Oh @BPDSurvivor I really relate to the pushing people away thing. I am scared of getting hurt. If I push people away first rather than being rejected it doesn't hurt as much. I wish I didn't do that. I really want friends and a rich and fulfilling life. It's just so hard!

Meggle

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HombreContributor25 June 2021, 10:34 pm AEST

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Hey, THANK YOU so much for this! It has helped me so much to understand. I think I just have to be brave and say I'm here.

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HombreContributor26 June 2021, 10:15 am AEST

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I just showed this to my husband and he cried and said yes, that's how he's felt I have done at times. It's so good for both of us to realise why I do it! THANK YOU SO MUCH!

I am trying to learn as much as I can and I would be floundering (even more so) if it wasn't for this group's links and advice and personal peer experiences. My psychologist just supports me, which is nice, but I feel like I need a structured program. For the moment learning and learning and learning is my journey.

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