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Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

NikNikSenior Contributor05 Aug 2016, 9:52 pm AEST

Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

People can experience a range of different responses following a traumatic event or period in their life. This month we would like to have a community discussion about trauma, hosted by @Former-Member, focusing on the challenges trauma throws our way and how we manage and cope with these challenges.

We would like to hear your experiences with different trauma responses (e.g.: memories, flashbacks, dissociation, etc,.), challenges you have faced with coping and strategies that have enabled you to cope with trauma.

If you haven't already, check out the Community Guidelines before participating tonight. This session isn't about the detail or reliving your past trauma and please be aware that specific and or graphic descriptions of trauma (abuse etc) will be removed, as it can be triggering for others members).

A big welcome to @Mary4 @james_biss @Bimby2 @Former-Member @j___________ @purplefeather @Bonny @chookmojo @1stepup61 @joannah @AngeB @mrkotter @Sehnsucht @myanxiousstory @Cdionfan @KangaRue @greenspace @programmanager @Christina @Shaz51 @Kt3 @Appleblossom @brizj @Sasha1@Mazarita @Martinks

@Former-Member is going to kick off in 10 mins - so stay tuned 🙂

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NikNikSenior Contributor16 Aug 2016, 8:45 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

@AussieGirl well I'm really glad that you have felt comfortable to open up here 🙂

I think @j___________ 's point about finding the right therapist is a good one. A good therapist will listen to you and take into consideration what you think will be best for you and open to trying a few different things.

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1stepup61Senior Contributor16 Aug 2016, 8:45 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

Very good list @Former-Member. I am reading Reality Slap its confronting to practise but i am taking it slow. How did u find the book? @1stepup61

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NikNikSenior Contributor16 Aug 2016, 8:46 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

@Bonny
So glad you found the right fit for you!

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BonnyContributor16 Aug 2016, 8:47 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

Same Aussie Girl I don't have family and No friends I feel that close to that I would

A) Trust

B) Want to disclose to.

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Unknown userMember16 Aug 2016, 8:47 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

As a final question that I will pose tonight, what sorts of things give you hope or keep you hopeful?

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SGWCasual Contributor16 Aug 2016, 8:48 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

@AussieGirl i hear you the only way i will go back to see a counciler or psychologist is if i am speaking out openly or in my role at work.

@Bonnie yeah it is very time consuming and draining to be repeating the story. What people do not understand about services like victims service is, it is entirely up to the person with the problem to make contact and ask for help and then they are given the name of a counciler in their area and then it is up to them to make contact and make an appointment in the hope this person is the right fit. Also if not they have to restart the process all over again untill they hopefully find someone suitable that actually meets their needs and agrees with their goals on their healing journey. It is fustrating as all hell. I tried writting things out however i am not this is not accepted. So many bad fits where you are left questioning who you are as there seems to be a built in judgement and assumptions about who you are what you should be like and how you should act after the experiences you had. I just give up trying to find one and the recomendations from friends are private and super expensive but they healed enough to live productive and forfilling lives. Really makes you think.

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NikNikSenior Contributor16 Aug 2016, 8:49 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

Great last question @Former-Member

We have about 10 mins left for this Topic Tuesday.

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KayeeCasual Contributor16 Aug 2016, 8:49 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

Same here too, @Bonny and @AussieGirl

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Unknown userMember16 Aug 2016, 8:49 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

I think what helps me TRUST others better is trusting myself & a lot of self talk. To realising we all have different values & learning to sepate my valued from theirs. Remind myself that they are entitled to their choices, which are about them. Its TRUSTING MYSELF enough to know I can handle whatever comes my way with dignity and strength, integrity & self respect. Breathe derp. People will hurt us, I'm trying to teach myself how to face it when necessary but also when to put boundaries in place. This is still a hard one for me.

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BonnyContributor16 Aug 2016, 8:51 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

YES j

Swapping therapists because you are not getting the assistance needed or are a bad suit.

The change over of Mental Health Care plans and then you only get max 12 sessions per calander year .

How are you supposed to heal or resolve trauma in 12 sessions ???

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