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Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

NikNikSenior Contributor05 Aug 2016, 9:52 pm AEST

Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

People can experience a range of different responses following a traumatic event or period in their life. This month we would like to have a community discussion about trauma, hosted by @Former-Member, focusing on the challenges trauma throws our way and how we manage and cope with these challenges.

We would like to hear your experiences with different trauma responses (e.g.: memories, flashbacks, dissociation, etc,.), challenges you have faced with coping and strategies that have enabled you to cope with trauma.

If you haven't already, check out the Community Guidelines before participating tonight. This session isn't about the detail or reliving your past trauma and please be aware that specific and or graphic descriptions of trauma (abuse etc) will be removed, as it can be triggering for others members).

A big welcome to @Mary4 @james_biss @Bimby2 @Former-Member @j___________ @purplefeather @Bonny @chookmojo @1stepup61 @joannah @AngeB @mrkotter @Sehnsucht @myanxiousstory @Cdionfan @KangaRue @greenspace @programmanager @Christina @Shaz51 @Kt3 @Appleblossom @brizj @Sasha1@Mazarita @Martinks

@Former-Member is going to kick off in 10 mins - so stay tuned 🙂

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Unknown userMember16 Aug 2016, 8:25 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

i saw a counsellor when i was 10 and was referred to a psychologist was my only experience with counsellors

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j___________Contributor16 Aug 2016, 8:25 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

Content/trigger warning

My professionals want me to try EMDR. Tried nearly everything else.

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SGWCasual Contributor16 Aug 2016, 8:25 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

@Former-Member i do not know about anyone else but personally i do not trust anyone beyond a superficial level! I ahev draged myself up from the bottom through univ ersity and now to stable fulltime employment. I feelthis is due to my need for justice and to be validated through it! With my experiences it would be very hard fro me to do so especially law encforcement or some people in mental health. I unfortunally am all alone and i used to have a massive problem with this but in being on my own i have learnt to enjoy my own company even to the point of liking myself. People come and go (hoepfully not using me or causing damage on the way out) i will always have myself and i know i can rely upon myself.

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BonnyContributor16 Aug 2016, 8:25 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

Thanks j

A friend reccommended I keep a journal but I feel the same way and it just feels like too much effort at the moment. Plus I'm not ready to rehash all the crappy stuff or intricate events in my thaughts. A gratitude diary is something I can do and it is positive and can be short.

Maybe by starting this eventually i may journal.

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OkayCasual Contributor16 Aug 2016, 8:29 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

My perps were executed- and it was good.

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AussieGirlContributor16 Aug 2016, 8:29 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

I will never see a psychologist or talk to a doctor ever again.

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BonnyContributor16 Aug 2016, 8:31 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

Exactly SGW I feel I am better off alone and more stable and can achieve greater things.

However I am mindful of isolating and I believe in order to heal one day I will gradually begin to soften and slowly let down that brick wall.

Trust will be priority.

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SGWCasual Contributor16 Aug 2016, 8:32 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

@Former-Member i want to be respectful and i achknowledge that not all councilers and therapists are the same. However my experiences to date have mostly been negative to the point i am now of the understanding if i am to heal i will need to do it myself or pay proiatly. I have asked for councilers to give me what i need (exactly like it going to court which i am fighting for currently). My experiences have been there is a push of masking or distraction with little talk about incidences or validation. The wounds cannot heal nor can the cycle be smashed and ground to dust speaking openly occurs. I do not want to live in a zombie half life existance where i am struggling to exist because i am medicated so much i can not lift my head for fears i may offend someone with my experiences. Nor do i want to pretend it did not happen. I won't share specifics but if you are curious i am happy to share the document i made with the timeline of my experiences. Medication is often given as a first resport and there is never any review or actual work on the trauma. Not all but this is my personal experiences and i have been trying for around 10 years.

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Unknown userMember16 Aug 2016, 8:33 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

@SGW, I'm sure your not alone in not trusting others beyond a superfical level. I can understand that your experiences have made it hard for you to do so. You have done well in working your way through uni and achieveing stable full time employment. Being alone definitely is something that takes getting used to and the fact that you can enjoy your own company and like yourself are both great accomplishments that many people can struggle with, myself included!

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Unknown userMember16 Aug 2016, 8:35 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

STRATEGIES I FIND USEFUL:
- Know signs of relapse & be proactive in getting extra support for a while through GP
- Counselling / psychologist, MH CM
- Rest when needed, sleep
- Nutrition (Vegies every day), vit & mineral supplements, Omega3, kelp.
- Prescribed meds
- walks
- Routine schedule
- Being kind to myself (mind & body), my own best friend. Its a work in progress.
- Self Compassion therapy exercises in Russ Harris's Bk, 'Reality Slap'
- Mindfulness exercises
- Mindfulness grounding exercises (particular useful when wake shaking with flashbacks).
- TaiChi
- My 'SOS Coping Box' of positive treasures.
- Gardening & nature
- If dissociating - Squeezing an ice cube, strong smells - like insense, perfume..., & tastes - suck lemon & pinch salt, strong peppermints herbal teas... All bring me back, reconnect.
- talk to someone - chats here, lifeline, friend

Think that covers most
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