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BrokenPrincessCasual Contributor
Hi,
As someone who is married to a guy who has had an affair.... I can tell you she probably knows "something" has been going on at some point, just maybe not sure who or what. But if they had a strongish connection, she would have noticed his change....
my suggestion... If you love your sister, think about everything you would need to do if it was some other women other than you. Get supports in place for her. If they want to work it out, then tell him to organise some relationship counselling for them both (if she wants to stick with him). But have it all in place in some way or another.... Then, the hardest part, tell her. Sit down in a neutral spot and tell her. Go to a park or something so she can scream if she wants to. But make sure everything else is there for her before you tell.
If you stop your relationship with him and not say anything, either he will go find someone else... Or if he goes back to being just with her, she will notice the difference between you both and the difference in her relationship and trust me... If she has to put it together, sorry to say, but you will be done for.
you and him need to decide what you want and you need to decide if you want to try and be a sister, or "the other woman"
sorry if it isn't a hope filled response, but...
on the flip side, she probably already knows he is up to something, and might be relieved if it is someone she knows.... Never know you luck
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