Living in A World of Fear

Hello and welcome to the forum @M93

sending you tender hugs

has your daughter have a helth care team

do you have support for yourself too xx

I have taged some members for you

@Bunniekins, @Smc , @Faith-and-Hope , @frog

@M93 Hey M93 and welcome to the forums. @Shaz51 thanks for tagging me . It is always great to see more new members. Love greenpeax

She is 33 and refuses to see anyone. Always has excuses.

I'm so sorry @M93 That's a very hard situation.

The violence sounds really frightening and serious.

Would you consider a restraining order? It's drastic but you have a right to safety and it seems like it not being respected.

I am in a situation with an abusive 18 y/o and it's no win. It's crushing my confidence and damaging my physical and mental health.

I really feel for you.

She has Leukemia and hardly any support.

I feel so guilty.

Part of me says leave her alone for a few weeks and see how she responds.

She won't apologise because she knows she is in the wrong and doesn't want to admit to it as she already has a record.

It's been 17 years of running around in circles.

Thank you

Hi @M93 and welcome

yo the forums ..... 👋💕

Sometimes the person we care about (I won't use the word live here) or feel responsible for needs their condition to be properly diagnosed, but they don't feel there is anything wrong with them, won't seek psychological diagnosis or even support, and there is not much you can do until something happens to reveal their condition to the wider world. That has happened to me, only I have an abusive estranged husband who it making life hell for me and our children while playing the victim.

Do you have a mental health provider who can help you work out how to deal with your daughter ? You may have to go "no contact" with her if she is thriving on abusing others, which is apparently the nature of my soon2bx...... ufortunately I can't go no-contact because we have an adult disabled child caught in the middle of our mess, so it's as low-contact here as I can manage.

Lean on all the supports you can, but maybe consider that you can't help her any more and have to step away, as sad as that is. It's not a situation of your own making if she has a personality disorder, which is what it is sounding like to me.

Sending you many virtual hugs ..... please step up your self-care as much as you can. It's not a luxury, it's a necessity !!!

Thank you. Many people have seen her behaviour including her exes. I think she got too use to me coming back.

I'm speaking to my counsellor on Wednesday.

thinking of you on wednesday @M93

and plesase remember you self care too my friend

Carers Hints and tips to Successis a good link to look at too xx

Hello M93

I feel for you too, especially as your daughter is also living with leukemia.

This is my first post. I came here for help myself as my 40 year old son who has been living with me for the last 5 years, and who also has other health conditions, and lives with borderline personality disorder, frightens me. Before I came here I did do a lot of reading online as to how to handle his mood swings from loving one minute to angry the next, and the way I have been descending into anger and hurt myself.

I'm exhausted, am over retirement age, but can't retire because of all of this, as we wouldn't have anywhere to live. But I'm likely to die soon myself because of all the stress and fatigue. He's gone missing at the moment, as I couldn't handle it, but he's got nowhere to go as he's alienated all of his old friends as well, and can't handle being alone. I'm still committed to the relationship. I brought him into this world without a father and siblings. I can't abandon him.

Thank you @Peggy8, @M93 and everyone else for sharing your stories and support here.

You have shown a lot of courage to express what you have been going through. It sounds excruciating and incredibly complex, but I do hope that there is some solace in knowing you are not alone

Please remember how important it is to take care of yourselves and to reach out for some extra support outside of the forums if you need.

Lifeline (24/7)

SANE Help Centre (Mon-Fri)

Warmest,

Basil