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Spouse and bipolar

M_ACasual Contributor29 July 2016, 7:59 pm AEST

Spouse and bipolar

I am just looking for some support. My husband has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder. We have very unusual circumstances. We are married but have spent more time apart than together. I am from America and due to financial problems, I haven't been able to get a spousal visa and permanently stay with my husband. I have recently arrived after 6 years apart.
Is it normal for someone who is bipolar to just snap at their loved ones? I have been told to pack up and get out so many times, I almost have. I am flying back to the states in about 10 weeks and I just don't know if I can come back. When things are good, they are really good but when he snaps, it gets bad. Nothing,very, physical. Mostly mental and emotional. Any answers will be appreciated. He has family and doctors to talk with. I am alone. Thank you

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M_ACasual Contributor19 Aug 2016, 9:59 pm AEST

Re: Spouse and bipolar

Thank you for your support. Unfortunately communication about feelings is impossible. He was raised that he doesn't have feelings or emotions. He actually told me the other day that he doesn't yell at me, he gets excited. Sure sounds like yelling to me. Our time to be together is running short. I know he is feeling very stressed about it. He doesn't seem to realize stressing and "getting excited' about things are making our last few weeks very unpleasant. Shouldn't we be enjoying being together instead of me walking on eggshells everyday? Its like living with Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde.
Thanks again for your advice and support. So much more than just bipolar going on, but I believe its our biggest hurdle.

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor20 Aug 2016, 9:22 am AEST

Re: Spouse and bipolar

Hi @M_A

Its just a suggestion ... but maybe you can set up a couple of special "adventure" days before you have to leave again .... like a day at the zoo ... or an aquarium centre ....

Perhaps ere is a day trip you can take somewhere together and have the sort of dinner date that is special to you ... fish and chips on the beach ... tapas in a cafe-bar .... quiet Italian corner .... ?

Amongst all the "excited loud talk" it will be creating other memories to both take with you, and to leave behind with him ... you need to put some bits and peices into the treasured memories box ...

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