Connect with people who understand what you are going through,
seek advice and surround yourself with support. We're
free, anonymous, and professionally moderated 24/7.
I never in my wildest dreams thought I'd be here. In saying that I have had some interactions with some of you and you are all lovely, so thanks for saying hi and making me feel welcome! @Shaz51@Determined@Maggie@Former-Member@Faith-and-hope@Smc@SoS .
I constantly manage si and sh urges @Anastasia and honestly some of the time theres no reason it just pops up. When it becomes a chronic thing its hard to know what to do or what might help at all. As well as yourself having some supports, if your son doesnt have any id suggest him trying to access some as well. A coping box might be helpful for him too, it might be helpful for you too. Have you heard of a coping box ?
In response to: Trying to stay Sane
outlanderSenior Contributor
Re: Trying to stay Sane
Ok im really glad you have someone to support you in this too @Anastasia Carers Australia also offer free counselling as well if you need
In response to: Re: Trying to stay Sane
AnastasiaSenior Contributor
Re: Trying to stay Sane
He doesn't but I recall in hospital it was suggested to him. Is it where you have something to touch, smell, etc? I'd love more info and I can attempt to put one together with him please @outlander
In response to: Re: Trying to stay Sane
AnastasiaSenior Contributor
Re: Trying to stay Sane
I had a zoom session with a government run association. It was amazing but difficult to continue as during working hours. The final one was a craft day face to face which I would have enjoyed but not able to with work commitments sadly @outlander
In response to: Re: Trying to stay Sane
outlanderSenior Contributor
Re: Trying to stay Sane
A coping box is literally a box-if hes crafty he could use a cardboard box and decorate it @Anastasia Inside the box is everything he can do to calm, distract or soothe when things are intense like sh urges pop up etc. Everyones different ofcourse but some examples could be a colouring book or findaword book with some pencils, a stressball to squeeze, a favourite blanket to wrap yourself in, a favourite smelling candle, an ipod with earphones with somw fave music and/or guided meditation, some small handweights to do some quick strength exercises. These are only ideas of course, you can put whatever safe items you like in there that he finds helpful or that he likes (so maybe like a gameboy thing or something if hes tech savy) You make sure the box is easily accessed so maybe a place in his bedroom that he can just get whatever he needs out whenever he needs it.
In response to: Re: Trying to stay Sane
outlanderSenior Contributor
Re: Trying to stay Sane
Oh bugger @Anastasia perhaps in your local area you could find a crafty group to join in with even once a month. Just something nice and enjoyable just for you to have a break @Anastasia
In response to: Re: Trying to stay Sane
AnastasiaSenior Contributor
Re: Trying to stay Sane
I love that. Thank you. I'll talk to him about it and hopefully it is something he's open to implementing. You have been so kind to me @outlander sitting with me talking me through. I still have so much concern but I do feel a little better so thank you from the bottom of my heart. I wish for a brighter place for all of us I really do 😔🤗💞
In response to: Re: Trying to stay Sane
outlanderSenior Contributor
Re: Trying to stay Sane
You can make one up for you too id youd like @Anastasia you could call it a self care box. Its a pretty flexible thing.
Always happy to be here with and for you. Sometimes we just need to talk and let it out. My ears and heart are always open whenever you need 💛
Do you want to stay and chat more until you can settle enough for some sleep?
In response to: Re: Trying to stay Sane
AnastasiaSenior Contributor
Re: Trying to stay Sane
I might just do that @outlander !!!
I dozed a little I should probably say goodnight before I do fall asleep on you. Thank you again, big squeezy gentle hugs. Please take care of you xxx🤗💞
In response to: Re: Trying to stay Sane
outlanderSenior Contributor
Re: Trying to stay Sane
Your welcome anytime xo Goodnight @Anastasia i hope you can get some rest 💕
We're improving how you access SANE services, starting with Forums
You’ll soon be able to use one secure login to access all SANE services.
For added security, members are now required to log in with their email address and password - member names are no longer supported for logging in.
If you had a Forums account before 19 May 2026 and haven’t set up your new login yet, you'll be prompted to set up your new secure login when you sign-in.