Julia00Casual Contributor
Feeling confused and lonely
I was looking every where articles, readings, books where I could find any answer. I know people have really important things to be worry about, that's why k left everything on a side the last months. However, I can't anymore. I am married, my husband is a great person I love him, he is gentle, cares about me. But I feel we can't communicate. Lastly we are arguing for small things abs this is becoming a routine, we argue then he gets upset there is not talking and the next day like nothing happens. I feel frustrated some times as English is my second language and I want to say what I think assertively.
After apparently every thing is all right again, we get into an arguing again. I decided to tell hi that we really needed to talk, that something wasn't right, that wasn't me or wasn't him, that this is a relation and both need to talk. But he says for me everything is ok you are the one that makes the drama.
I have been thinking about that I started to see what wa any behaviour, I realised that I like things to be done straight, then I started to give him time to do everything in his own time. But things don't change I feel he doesn't understand the meaning of marriage, I feel he thinks marriage and being in a tenager relationship is the same. He goes out with his friends and come back around 2am. I didn't get upset before but I told him that I didn't like that. I trust him I know he is just with his friends, but the time that we depend together is small as we both work full time, when we are together 70% of the time is watching football and then sleeping time. He says nothing happens but he knows is not like that, because every time he has am plan to go out, just the hours before going out he is just an angel. Then I know he is leaving.
He told me if you don't like something just let me know don't just get angry. I did I tried but is not working.
I am sorry if is a mix of things. I wrote things as came from my mind. Also I know about my English. I really want to know what is happening with me I feel sad, bored, frustrated. I want to know what is my problem. This is not me. I have been always that quiet, relax person that every one likes to talk to, I am a hard worker, I am persistent. But when is about my relation I don't know what is happening to me. I don't have many friends and those that I really trust are in a difficult situations that are really more important.
After apparently every thing is all right again, we get into an arguing again. I decided to tell hi that we really needed to talk, that something wasn't right, that wasn't me or wasn't him, that this is a relation and both need to talk. But he says for me everything is ok you are the one that makes the drama.
I have been thinking about that I started to see what wa any behaviour, I realised that I like things to be done straight, then I started to give him time to do everything in his own time. But things don't change I feel he doesn't understand the meaning of marriage, I feel he thinks marriage and being in a tenager relationship is the same. He goes out with his friends and come back around 2am. I didn't get upset before but I told him that I didn't like that. I trust him I know he is just with his friends, but the time that we depend together is small as we both work full time, when we are together 70% of the time is watching football and then sleeping time. He says nothing happens but he knows is not like that, because every time he has am plan to go out, just the hours before going out he is just an angel. Then I know he is leaving.
He told me if you don't like something just let me know don't just get angry. I did I tried but is not working.
I am sorry if is a mix of things. I wrote things as came from my mind. Also I know about my English. I really want to know what is happening with me I feel sad, bored, frustrated. I want to know what is my problem. This is not me. I have been always that quiet, relax person that every one likes to talk to, I am a hard worker, I am persistent. But when is about my relation I don't know what is happening to me. I don't have many friends and those that I really trust are in a difficult situations that are really more important.
