Hi @tomjerry and also @outlander and @MDT
I don't see it as bad @tomjerry unless it's upsetting you or making life harder in some way. Personally I've always found the best relationships I've had are formed when I'm not looking for romance, and more focused on just getting to know people and making friends. You might have a hobby and be able to find people with similar interests with a google search of your area. Or support groups specific to your mental health diagnosis. Or places like the Mens' Shed, mens' yoga, ... and meetups (they are not for romance) that Hamsolo01 mentioned have a huge range of interest groups and are in most parts of urban and regional Australia. I'm a member of the writers' centre here and also the community disability alliance, both places where I meet like-minded people. I agree with Hams that plenty of people find love and romance after the age of 30. Just as well too, I'm 57! And currently developing a romance with someone I've been friends with for nearly 20 years.
Another thing I think rings true is that loving yourself is the most important and then you attract healthier connections with others. So for me this plays out in periods of being 'unto myself' and focused on my own well-being when it's actually much better to not be in a relationship. Learning to love yourself is a real challenge I know, I can't say I'm there yet, but developing more community engagement consciously is helping (after 20+ years of isolation). Having NDIS has made it possible for me to have support workers and get out in the world again.
To sum it up ... Patience Grasshopper! (an old quote I hope you've heard before).
I'm not saying this is you - I don't know you yet, but ...there are actually quite a lot of 'asexual' people in the world who choose to not have sex as part of their life. Just googled it and got this definition "Asexuality describes a lack of sexual attraction. Asexual people may experience romantic attraction, but they do not feel the urge to act on these feelings sexually. ... Asexuality exists on a spectrum, with much diversity in people's experiences and desires for relationships, attraction, and arousal."
And there are people who don't feel sexual attraction at all and that's ok too.
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