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Milo1Contributor
Hi, I'm new to this so bear with me.
I lost my son 5 weeks ago to suicide & I literally feel like my heart has been ripped out. Each day is getting harder & harder, I don't know how we go on living without him. My brain cannot comprehend I will never see him again. The pain is unbearable.
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OwlunarSenior Contributor
Thanks @Maggie
I always respond to suicide survivors if I notice them
My pain feels easier today though I am very tired and decided to sleep in
But my public wanted me - several phone calls later and it seems I am up to posting which has to be an improvement
I have to catch up with everything - I hope you are okay
Dec
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WinterSunSenior Contributor
Thank you for your thoughts
@Dec @NatureLover
@Darcy for tagging me
@Dec yes it is such an awful road to travel
and I am conscious as time goes by of how
many things he and we miss out on. Birthdays, weddings and extension of family.
My husband has often said it’s like a violent murder has been committed but there is no
perpetrator to hunt.
I understand what it’s like to feel a failure as a parent that this has happened. I only know that if it was up to me -
it would never have happened.
WinterSun
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OwlunarSenior Contributor
You are right @WinterSun
The deaths of our children could never have taken place on our watch but they have free will like everyone else and they made a terrible choice that we have to live with
It has felt to me that I failed but did I,? Really? I wasn't there. He was in
Juvenile Detention and I thought he would be safe - he wasn't
You are right though - justice can never be served - somehow we have to find thar peace within urselves
I'm so sorry
Dec
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@molly26 shared grief.
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molly26Casual Contributor
Oh it is still so very raw for you. 3 + years ago it was my son. Wish I had some words of wisdom to help with the world of pain you are in. Each day it's wee steps. I know your road to find some peace will be a bumpy one. Take care
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Milo1Contributor
Hi, Sorry I don't know how to reply to everyone so here goes.
My son was 26 years old & had mental health issues & had been in & out of hospital for the last 18 months. The system let him & us down so so badly. We tried everything to get him the help he so badly needed & deserved.
The whole family is really struggling, I've contacted a few places about counseling but with Covid-19 most places are zoom or phone calls & I would like to have face to face as finding it really hard to talk on the phone.
Thank you to everyone for all your lovely words of support & kind words.
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WinterSunSenior Contributor
Hi @Milo1
Have you been in touch with your gp ?
I don’t know what state you live in but here in
nsw the coroners were able to provide information on support services and a counsellor in our area.
With things easing hopefully you can get an appointment in person, a grief counsellor or one specialising in suicide.
We didn’t attend a support group until around 5 months later and I would credit it as being the most beneficial in helping us move forward.
WinterSun
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MaggieSenior Contributor
@Milo1 Just dropping off a gentle hug. 💜💜 Sometimes there are no words to adequately say what you would like to say. Sitting with you in this devastating time. 💜💜💜
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Milo1Contributor
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Milo1Contributor
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