Thanks for the invite @Shaz51
I got a lot out of the 8 dimensions of wellness. @Former-Member Hearing you about the need for the person struggling with SI to see evidence that the carer is onside.
I wonder about the discreteness issue. It is important. I was brought up not to let one hand know when the other gives. Life can become difficult if we are too discrete and erase ourselves.
@Smc I found your post very real and could relate. Your gradual reveals in a stable and reasonably caring social environment, is a great outcome. There would have been a lot of conditions and effort to make it come together.
It is important to distinguish all those aspects of self harm, suicidal ideation and actions.
It is important to recognise that for some it is a repetitive ongoing trauma. I know those feelings about dealing with crisis whilst having to keep the daily normal life going on for children. Really Hard.
Whilst managing families in crisis, as an attempt, it is probably not helpful to mix the groups of people who are dealing with completed suicide. If there is hope that needs to be nurtured, the fear and awareness of the possibility ... is heightened. Yes it all needs to be talked about ... but the how .... makes so much difference. I remember a lot of the ... but they actually did it .. etc ...
Groups can help, but also the wrong ideas can be spread in groups, so "sharing" is not an automatic miracle cure. Sharing can be good but moral support and Solutions need to be found. That happened a little with both my siblings. My brother told me of his shock at what others were doing when he was in Mont Park at 19, but then in time he was doing it.
If a psychological wound is opened for discussion or therapy, the issues needs to be closed properly. Lots more work needs to be done about good protocols for trauma work. It will usually take more than an hour, even if as I have often done, the client reassures the counsellor that they will be alright.
Stigma is a big useless destructive waste of everybody's time, but its around, and in the MH services, as I sadly found with my last psychologist.
@Former-Member I think there are many great things about this resource, but I am not sure about the name. It is making a statement about the reader, the carer, the "you" that is too definitive and may not be true, so may be tend towards misinformation. Personally I find it a bit triggering. The statement does not make it fact.
I could not get onto the site due to computer issues, so I am glad this thread was open for a few days to allow for people to post when they can. If the window of opportunity is too small, I wonder about the people who stumble upon the threads ... later.... sometimes its fine .. they can still get something from reading etc ... but sometimes it is too late.
I wanted to welcome the newer people, but feel I am not the best person to do that right now. I dont want my mood to negatively impact others. Hope my optimism kicks in soon. Picking up car from service so a long walk. I will be fine. I have support services in place now, but it has been a long time coming.
I have the desire, logic and knowledge of how to manage in my caring role for my son, but the intergenerational issues are still present.
