@Maggie hi, thanks. My ex-therapist sent me a message this morning, saying that I need to take my concerns to the new therapist. For a year she was telling me how she cared about me, how she would be there for me, that she would keep in touch and how I could go back, now, a cold, single line text. She didn't ask in what way he wasn't suitable, or anything, just assumed that it's a psych issue about trust. In one way, I understand it, I'm her job, not her friend, but in another, it hurts and feels like a betrayal...it is a betrayal.
Am I imagining the errors of the new therapist...
1. When I first met him, he told me that he was able to see me but he had a waiting list, so basically, if he took me on, I would be jumping the queue. I told him that was fine and perhaps in the two months I had to wait, he could fit me in when people cancelled. Weeks roll by and I think, I should check in with the secretary. She fit me in right away, and since then, there has been no issue fitting me in weekly...so basically, there was no queue and I had been waiting for nothing. A month back, I was told I could see him twice a week, the appointments were made, I felt finally, this is it, I am going to really give it my best. Previous appointment, I got told that they intended to fit another woman in, so I could have one permanent appointment and the other every fortnight.
2. His appointments are 45 mins which is shorter then I am use to but beggars can't choose. He goes directly from patient to patient however, meaning I have yet to have a 45 min appointment. They all have gone from 30 to 35. So, I wanted to see if he was aware of this, so I mentioned in passing, how doing therapy was difficult, travelling an hour to get there, how I was more focussed on selling the house than therapy, and in all of that, using the words for half hour appointments. He actually got a bit upset by that, he stopped me and corrected me that the appointments were 45 min. I should have said something, but his defensive behaviour kind of startled me, so I said nothing after that. That was the moment I realized I didn't want to see him anymore.
3. His room is small, his chairs are oddly placed so that my chairs sits with the back against the door...call it a personal dislike, but really irks me, along with the fact that the room is not sound proof. And his secretary is right outside and can hear everything above a quiet speaking voice.
4. After three months of being with him, telling him about my suicidal episodes, depression, anxiety, life stressors, the letter from another specialist with the DID diagnosis, at our last meeting, he said he didn't know why I was going there.
Are these things my issue or his? To me, these are unprofessional behaviours.
