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Telling someone with Narcissistic PD that they have NPD?

SJD_1Contributor14 June 2020, 10:32 am AEST

Telling someone with Narcissistic PD that they have NPD?

Hi,

I have a query around telling someone with NPD that they have NPD - does this work, and do they recognise themselves as having a personality disorder.

I have done a lot of reading, and while Narcissistic is thrown around a lot, it seems it is quite rare that someone with the personlity disorder is diagnosed. Am guessing that someone with NPD doesnt recognised themselves as having NPD?

My father has NPD, and it has taken me a long time to figure this out. 46 years. I thought all families were like ours??? : __

I recently sent him an email, providing him with information about NPD - the information from SANE fact sheets.

So, just wondering thoughts as to how the information may be received from someone with NPD?

Thank you.

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In response to: Telling someone with Narcissistic PD that they have NPD?

Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor19 June 2020, 11:56 am AEST

Re: Telling someone with Narcissistic PD that they have NPD?

It sounds like you are doing all you can @SJD_1 , and perhaps learning about NPD will swing the pendulum to the extreme where you feel caged in with boundaries - feeling that myself at the moment - but I am guessing that by the end of your legal / counselling processes, and mine, the pendulum will find a more comfortable midline and we will be able to venture out without being afraid of being hit by a new NPD bus from somewhere ......

I have kids involved so I can't go "no contact" either, as much as I would love to, and my mr. nasty has moved into our condensed living complex with his new fling (victim ?) so I turn every corner with the thought that I might run into them together, although that hasn't happened yet. I am not in a position to move. Low contact is all I can manage at the moment, and ongoing, as one of our adult children is expecting. There will be family occasions to try to work out .... sigh ..... but I am not going to worry about that yet.

It really is a matter to taking baby steps in the direction you want to go, carefully and in a way that is gentle to you. Letting natural consequences return to the NPD person as a result of their actions is the best way to deal with things it seems.

Thinking of you, and wishing you well. Learning more about the condition will help you feel less apprehensive about possibly meeting others of this nature. You will learn what the warning signs are, and how to repel them.

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