Hi, sorry to hear and i can totally relate with your frustration.
This thing doesn't go away by itself (as my sister has said, just leave him alone and stop meddling) I can't talk to my family, his dad doesn't know how to deal, and i researched the shit out of this.
I have found a therapist that i have faith in and she specialized in OCD.
This is my last straw, if she can't help, and he doens't put the work in, then that will be his life..
I know this sounds harsh, but i have watched him with germ phobia for over four years and i've crossed the line of frustration and am lying in a puddle of surrender and hopelessness.
I hope you can find someone to help him. My son saw two males before this (and they had specialties of OCD on their websites) they had no idea how to address this other than the txt book comments that we could have found via google.
So if i can recommend anything, it would be to research and find someone that is passionate about this disease.
I wish you the best in your challenging time and hope you find the help you need for your son and family.
Best wishes,
K 🙂