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MI + cancer = 😵😵😵
Mutual support = yay
@Former-Member , @RMG perhaps you would like to share here, you are not alone. My husband with bipolar ii was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in March this year. He had surgery, came home, was readmitted to hospital as he got an infection. He is now home and I am struggling to get a routine going.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
ohhh my @Former-Member , hugs my friend 
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AnastasiaSenior Contributor
Oh @Former-Member and Mr Darcy,
I am so sorry. I have been thinking of you and wondering how Mr Darcy went with his appintment and I am so terribly sad to learn this for you both. I don't really have a lot of words so just letting you know I am here
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AnastasiaSenior Contributor
Thinking of you @Former-Member xxx
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Feeling a bit lost at the moment. Mr Darcy is withdrawing, he is finding it difficult to smile. He told the oncologist (in a very illogical way) that he doesn't want any more treatment but she talked him into it. I maintain a "will support any decision you make" perspective. I am wondering if I should have been a bit more assertive, the oncologist would not give a "with vs without treatment" prognosis.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
ohhh @Former-Member hugs my friend
My FIL got to that point and he decided he was having anymore treatment which was hard but my MIL went with his decision
also My mum has ongoing bowel obstructions and she has said that she is not going through another surgery which is hard to watch and see the drs and nurses try other solutions
soo not looking forward to when it happens again
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@Shaz51 I know it is hypothetical but I could not see myself accepting the treatment that is on offer to Mr Darcy. Time will tell whether it affords him quality of life which is my main concern.
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RMGSenior Contributor
@Former-Member so sorry to read what you are both going through 😢 xxx
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How are you going @RMG ?
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@Emelia8 how are things at your end?
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