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Struggles coping with Trauma and the Aftermath.

Felicity73Contributor29 May 2020, 8:42 am AEST

Struggles coping with Trauma and the Aftermath.

Hello. I've been trying to deal with a lot recently. School's just been over the top of me, and I haven't had two seconds to myself. My father was always a short-tempered and angry man, and it's worse now. I'm getting more flashbacks than ever, and yet when I look back and think about it, it feels stupid to me. I just feel so weak for being traumatised by it all, and I just can't accept that I am not ok because of what happened. I've fallen down a long depressive spiral, and I am just getting worse and worse. My head's just been so chaotic, and I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. I keep feeling like my trauma is just stupid or miniscule, because I've heard about what other people have been through, and then I look at myself and think 'I don't deserve to feel scared or hurt, because they have been through so much more'. Everything is just getting so dark, and I don't know what to do. I've tried to seek help, but I'm currently stuck and unable to see a psychologist, so this is all I've got. I'm sorry for bothering you all with my problems, I'm sure you have plenty of your own, but I guess I just wanted to feel ok for the first time in a long time.

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LilacaSenior Contributor08 June 2020, 9:06 pm AEST

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Hi @Felicity73,

Glad to hear back from you and finally venting out!

I can never understand how and why someone could do harmful things to another, but it's usually learned through the environment be it in the family or school. Is there any favourite teacher or school counsellor that you could talk to and discipline the situation? If you can, it'll be good to have a best friend or older sister in your school for support so school life will get easier, but I understand this may not be always be possible. Back when I was in primary school, we would have a buddy system pairing elder students with younger ones.

In regards to your quarantine trauma, I came across this website for self diagnosis. They offer free online counselling service with health professionals too.

You also mentioned that your dad is terrifying. I am just wondering if your mom or close sibling/relative or even a pet could be there to support when you were spiralling down. I am not sure what crossed your mind during this dark period, but sometimes a breath of fresh air and the sun may help to get things back in perspective if you're on your own. When we were in lockdown, you may use the excuse of exercise to get out of the house daily. But now that lockdown has been eased, I hope you are feeling better and returning to normal life.

Do keep talking and know that you are valued here.

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Felicity73Contributor09 June 2020, 1:43 pm AEST

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It warms my heart to hear that other people really care about us that much. We’ve generally had a lot of trouble reaching out, and it was hard to try to put our feelings out here, but it is really helping, and I am very thankful for that.

Well, I don’t really have much that I can do about a lot of the trauma we’ve been through, but we are trying to reach out to find a psychiatrist to talk to and sort out our current issues, but this is about as good as it gets I guess.

Thank you all so much. @Lilaca

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LilacaSenior Contributor09 June 2020, 8:28 pm AEST

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Hi @Felicity73,

Good to know you're ok and reaching out to a psychiatrist. I hope you will heal from your trauma soon. It's a lot easier when you are younger.

If you've trouble with words, try expressing yourself in other forms such as arts, singing/songwriting, dancing, exercise, performance art, etc. You might feel better after.

If you ever feel down and need someone to be there, don't hesitate to connect over here, we all care for you.

Are you back in school now that the lockdown is over? How are you feeling now with your life back on normal schedule?

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LilacaSenior Contributor09 June 2020, 11:17 pm AEST

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Felicity73Contributor11 June 2020, 6:27 am AEST

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Yeah, I’m back to school as usual, but it still gets a lot sometimes.

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