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Ups and downs

ta_New Contributor16 July 2016, 12:12 pm AEST

Ups and downs

I can't really remember how I came across this site but I liked the idea of having a way to share what you're feeling and hearing from others without physically needing to be in the space.

Something I continually struggle with is the ups and downs. How you can be going along so well, feeling happy and strong, than for no explainable reason, you feel like you've been hit for 6 and are laying on the canvas with a 10 count.

I thought I was doing quite well lately but getting back in to routine and doing things for 'me' but I've also had quite a lot of pressure with work and some family things that have come up lately and when it's all mixed together has me feeling completely lost and helpless.

Not really sure what sharing this will achieve but it can't hurt right?

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DecadianSenior Contributor16 July 2016, 12:22 pm AEST

Re: Ups and downs

Hi ta_ Welcome to our website

It is never a bad thing to find a website like this one where we can talk about the ups and downs of life - because we all have them

Today has been a bit like that for me - I understand how this and work - everything has been planned - and looks good - but someone throws a spanner through the works and it all falls apart

And them's the downs

I'm glad you posted

Decadian

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pipSenior Contributor16 July 2016, 2:08 pm AEST

Re: Ups and downs

Hi ta_ Often unexpected things happen which knock us for 6 as you say. We get into a routine of everyday things then something from 'left field' comes alone which we're not expecting, and we don't know how to deal with it and we get the wind knocked out of our sails. Sometimes we can look on this as a test of our strength and emotional courage, other times it gets to us and 'down' we go. If you have someone close that you can 'unload' to, it would help. Not necessarily someone to do anything, just someone to listen. A shoulder to cry on. Take some time to care for you, talk to your spouse. Tell your partner you don't want them to solve the problem, just to listen. A problem shared is a problem solved.

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Fancy_PantsSenior Contributor16 July 2016, 3:09 pm AEST

Re: Ups and downs

Hi @ta_

Welcome to the forums its great that you found us by whatever means that was!

reading your last sentance I was thinking similarly to Pip that for me it is just the act of sharing that is cathartic ie even journaling but when you can share and feel heard (like the i hope you feel from the members who have already expressed empathy and caring for you) then it feels particularly valuable..

Please feel comfortable to share as much or as little as you like, read widely and if you like "like" whatever you want that resonates with you

in line with that, if you want, can you say anymore about your ups and downs? what does it look like for you? has this been a long time thing? how do you manage?

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ta_New Contributor16 July 2016, 10:03 pm AEST

Re: Ups and downs

Thanks Pip, appreciate your comment. I agree, it's always useful to have someone to speak to. For me it's always been a case of 'I know it helps me when I do speak to someone' but I taking the first step and doing it is always a challenge. Although I think I'm getting better. Appreciate your thoughts

@pip wrote:
Hi ta_ Often unexpected things happen which knock us for 6 as you say. We get into a routine of everyday things then something from 'left field' comes alone which we're not expecting, and we don't know how to deal with it and we get the wind knocked out of our sails. Sometimes we can look on this as a test of our strength and emotional courage, other times it gets to us and 'down' we go. If you have someone close that you can 'unload' to, it would help. Not necessarily someone to do anything, just someone to listen. A shoulder to cry on. Take some time to care for you, talk to your spouse. Tell your partner you don't want them to solve the problem, just to listen. A problem shared is a problem solved.

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