Hello @ms_37 and others of the post @Appleblossom @mudsum @Former-Member @outlander and all who may come.
This is convenient as i'd just made another post on this exact topic and so I will paste it here too, though I will tailor it to be more relevant to this post, be free to ask for any assistance, I will reply when I can.
Well,
When it comes to doctors, psychs and diagnosis' I’m not going to sugar coat this, I think it’s important that people hear the truth of others experience rather than with-holding knowledge and experience.
To seek the guidance of those with extensive lived experience is a sign of intelligence, because those with lived experience of the journey will always have more authority and more credibility than the academic, just the same way as any experienced Aircraft Pilot who has flown many times and who has navigated the storms will always be more preferred and have higher value than the trainee pilots who have only ever dreamt and read about flying from books in their universities.
Of course there’s no harm in seeking both the academic and the experienced.
It is important though that we see this with honesty and clarity.
By giving you a diagnosis, it is an attempt to categorise you and put you into a little box with a label for anything and everything that they don’t understand or refuse to acknowledge, a label for this and a label for that, it is a box of their own ignorance actually, because that’s how they were trained by the education system.
Trained to automatically dismiss anything that doesn’t fit their limited constructed box of “normal” with their aim being to try and stuff you inside it one way or another, to bend you in the shape that they think you should be rather than allowing you to awaken to discover your divine nature and blossom into the shape you were created to be.
Most of the labels and diagnosis' from psychiatrists are really nothing more than a form of bullying, and they may cause more harm than good.
It is the same as a bully calling you names and if you happen to believe and buy into their perception and opinion of you to be true, then and only then does it affect you, often leading to all sorts of other unnecessary and unforeseen challenges, for example: additional depression and a de-valuing of who and what you are.
Diagnosis and labels can just as easily be removed as they were put on.
If you do not allow such labels to be stuck on you, then it is like the Bully's sticks and stones being deflected off your shield, keeping you safe, unharmed and immune.
On the other side of the coin, if you do not experience the pain of the sticks and stones then you may not know a reason to hold up a shield for yourself in the first place until you are hit and know it hurts; meaning that we learn by our experience of suffering and that suffering can be a great teacher to then make the right choices for growth and transformation.
A diagnosis attaches itself to the personality construct like a leech, but it is only a label stuck on along the journey of life, it's not imperically true, in the same way beliefs, or likes and dislikes are picked up and can just as easily be dropped from our personality construct, but none of it is who we truly are, we weren't born with them and we won't die with them.
A diagnosis is only an opinion, it only lives by its agreement and belief that it is true for us; as part of our identity, it requires you to be agreeable and to say “ok I believe you, and that’s true for me”, of course many of us do at first trust the "professionals" as we have been told that we should and after they use a few basic psychological manipulation techniques and/or fear tactics such as “if you don’t take these meds its only going to get worse” before too long they are using us as test subjects; guinea pig for pharmaceutical companies.
We may tend to trust them and agree with them because there has been a great effort to promote and glorify them as the ultimate know-all when it comes to our mental health, giving authority, power and credibility to those who really have none.
This topic goes far deeper into the corruption of Governments and education systems and other agendas which is all being exposed during this time of voluntary "lockdown", however I won’t go into all that now.
Diagnosis' are just like a bit of gum on the shoe and all that is required is the right tool to remove them, or to get some new shoes by dropping the old story of "me" altogether i.e the one who is "ill" with "problems" all-together.
To see it as a character on the stage objectively from a neutral observer and to recognise that if you are the one in the audience observing that character with the illness diagnosis and problems etc then who are you? Obviousely then it cannot be you.
What this is really all about is turning our focus and attention inward.
To look upon our own identity, of what we say is "me".
To look at how you identify with those diagnosis' and what they mean for you, when we identify with them and call them us, then we suffer the idea of what they mean and how they are defined.
If this is confusing or not understood, I will point you in the right direction to discover for yourself as to what I am refering to.
There is a helpful way which works 100% for anyone, it's called "self-enquiry meditation" of which ramana maharshi helped to revive on this world though it is ancient and always existed, it is a way by which we can get to the root of identity weeds rather than taking the psychs approach of delaying and suppressing the issue by only trimming the leaves of the weeds only to grow back the next season.
So it's called self-enquiry meditation, it takes you directly to the source of your thoughts and has the ability to eventually allow one to be free of all suffering.
I won't explain it all here as the post would be too large, I will just allow you to search for it yourself.
It is important to recognise also that YOU are the first and foremost authority on who you are and noone can tell you otherwise, and your experiences are unique and valid, and it is your responsability to take that step inward, others may show you the path but in the end only you can walk it for it is your journey and story to make sense of and you know what is best for you.
I'm just here to offer guidance from lived experience, to help in what way I can that may best serve you and others at this time.
To allow you to make an informed decision for what is best for you by hearing new perspectives.
You don’t have to listen to me either, it’s your choice, some people will learn better by learning their own way and steering their own ship where it needs to go and do not require or want a light to see, and that is where I'd like to see everyone eventually.
To be able to steer their own ship and in their own driver seat of their life, for that’s really what mental health is all about.
The choice is always in your hands, You are your own master.
At least I will know that by providing what vision I could, that I offered and gave you the option rather than keeping those in the dark who are asking for visibility and navigation, for not only have I reached the light at the end of the tunnel but I have also discovered I am the light in the darkness and that the darkness is not an enemy, nor sepererate, there are no enemies, for without the darkness; no light can be seen.
I hope this is helpful for someone. Stay strong and clear brothers and sisters,
All the best.
