Grief

Thanks sweetie, I lost a lot when I lost her. @Former-Member

@Former-Member I can imagine, it's always hard losing people

@Former-Member . She sounds like a friend that everyone should have. Sounds like you still remember her like it was yesterday. I hope i will remember my friend the same way. I feel like i have lost my arm or a leg a great big void that is growing. He died a month ago and i haven't been able to cry about it till today. Been keeping so busy and trying to distract myself that it hasn't really sunk in. I keep thinking that things will get better and better they will. It must of been hard when hubby left not to be able to talk to her. Thankyou for listening. Just knowing there are others who have been in the same boat really helps. Thankyou all for your support.

Hi @Former-Member @Calmblueocean @Former-Member @France

I am really tired so I had to give up remembering who said what and just jump in

I'm a bereaved mother too and after my son died I read everything I could on grief to just get on with my tattered life. Grief work is hard work - we have to go on and for a long time life goes on -- making no sense - how can other people carry on normally when ours has been destroyer?

It's devastating to lose any one we value - a huge space appears in our lives that can never be filled

Dec 💙

@Calmblueocean , sometimes I feel like I am forgetting her face, she had the most gorgeous smile. I just take out her photos to keep it fresh. I promise it will get easier but after only a month don't expect to much of yourself. Don't hold on the tears, don't feel bad if you get angry at him for leaving it's all very normal.

She was the only girlfriend who normalise my DID. She would sit with my child alter and stroke her hair, she would drink with my drunk alter never letting her get to drunk and she would bit*h with my protector who at the time was always angry. She left this world wearing my engagement ring as she would always steal it when I took it off to do the dishes or have a shower. My now ex hubby brought me a new one exactly the same one but also brought one each for our two daughter and hers. Sorry I am rambling. 💖

Hi @Owlunar . That is the saddest thing i have ever heard. I am so sorry. Tears are streaming down my face. Life is so cruel sometimes. I can't talk anymore. Night everyone.

@Owlunar , I am sorry for the loss of you son that is a grief beyond any other. Yes it's hard work and life has never really been the same since.

Sending you a huge hug

@Owlunar I'm so sorry for your loss too

@Former-Member ramble all you like i am glad you remember her so well. I just realized i have to live the rest of my life without him . That's a bit depressing

Everyone else who has lost someone close has to as well. Just read a post that made me realize that and it is the saddest part of it all. I will be ok because the sun always rises on a new day and maybe i will feel a little better. Again thankyou all.

@Calmblueocean @Former-Member @Former-Member @France @Owlunar

You might find this talk helpful:

https://youtu.be/TxSd8f2Utpk

I particularly like the jar illustration at around the 9 minute mark.