FORUMS

Connect with people who understand what you are going through, seek advice and surround yourself with support. We're free, anonymous, and professionally moderated 24/7.

  • 47,612Members
  • 1,358,869Posts
  • 1,400,000Visitors
Our stories

Need advice please (info below).

Need advice please (info below).

Some people I've already told about this, but I'll tag them again just to keep it to one thread. So as the title suggests, I need some advice please.

I saw a MH Nurse in my suburb, and no there's no one else I can see, a MH Nurse or not, where I live. I am seeing a social worker next week so I hope that goes ok, can't be any worse, well I hope not.

I've seen this MH Nurse twice, first time was rushed because he didn't know about it. Second time his whole attitude changed - he was so rude, abrupt and controlling.

He told me I scored a high score, 50 or something, on a K10 test (yes I was being completely honest in my answers), but then he said to me that he thinks I'm faking my mental illnesses. Of course that ISN'T true. My Psychiatrist (who is great, I don't have a problem with him) even sent him stuff with my diagnoseses.

Not only that, but he said that I see my Psychiatrist too much, although he agreed and is happy to see me every 2-3 weeks (he knows I have no other professional help and he told me he told the MH Nurse this), that I expect too much of him and I don't appreciate what he's done for me.

NONE of that is true - I always thank my Psychiatrist, and I appreciate him and what he's done for me, and I tell him this. He agreed to see me every 2-3 weeks, and I don't expect a thing from him. We talk about medication, symptoms, my mood, and whatever else comes up/what he asks me.

I'm so hurt and offended by this, and I feel betrayed by this rude MH Nurse, I wasn't to know this would happen. I feel bad even just typing this out and posting it, but I need to get it off my chest. This has even upset my parents.

Oh also, he called my Psychiatrist behind my back, is trying to call my GP, AND the Headspace centre I went to where I had a bad experience (turns out he used to work there). I told him I DIDN'T want him to do that, and he even called my Mum behind my back. My Psychiatrist has NEVER asked to speak with my parents, although I'd be fine if he did because I know he would ask me.

When I told him what happened at Headspace (I won't go into detail about that, its too triggering), he stood up for them and thought I was lying too.

So, my question is, should I complain? My parents think I should. I'll be telling my Psychiatrist and then taking it from there. I know he won't be happy.

I feel so hurt, betrayed and like my privacy and trust has been taken away. I definitely don't feel comfortable and I don't trust this guy at all. He's going behind my back and doing stuff, bad stuff, and hiding things.

He's trying to get my Psychiatrist to hate me and not see me anymore, and I don't want that. So I hope my psychiatrist doesn't do that.

Please help, any suggestions anyone? I'll probably just cry telling my psychiatrist because this has been so upsetting for me.

And to be honest, before I even saw the MH Nurse, my Psychiatrist told me they spoke over the phone, I said I apologise because I wasn't aware that he would do that, and my psychiatrist looked at me funny and his tone of voice seemed like he didn't like him, without making assumptions. So that in itself says something.

Thanks.

135 replies

11 - 20 of 135

In response to: Need advice please (info below).

Re: Need advice please (info below).

@Former-Member I would say that your first and foremost goal should be to get this horrible nurse out of your life ASAP. They sound ultra-toxic and as if every encounter with them will only make your situation much worse, so I would focus on getting them out of your life. Comparitively, whether or not to report them would be a "tomorrow problem" (IMHO).

The good news is that this guy has already handed you a way out of his "care", it would seem. He's basically told you that you don't need his care, so all you have to do is agree with him and he should stop making you see him. (I got the impression that you go to visit him at some facility? He doesn't home visit you?)

I went through very similar ordeals with both of my main therapists. I could never have complained in a manner that would've hurt them directly, but I have made several reports to government inquiries that this sort of thing is commonplace in the mental health system.

In response to: Re: Need advice please (info below).

Re: Need advice please (info below).

Hello, thank you for your reply. Nice to chat with you for the first time @chibam .

I saw the MH Nurse at my local hospital, by choice (I emailed them and they connected me with him, I never asked to be honest. I was looking for more of a program).

I'm so sorry you've had bad experiences too. And what do you mean by he's handed me out of his care? I'm confused?

In response to: Need advice please (info below).

Re: Need advice please (info below).

@Lee82 good idea, thank you.

@outlander thank you also

In response to: Re: Need advice please (info below).

Re: Need advice please (info below).

@TAB I can see that you've been randomly liking my comments from posts, not stalking me are you?

In response to: Re: Need advice please (info below).

Re: Need advice please (info below).

No. @Former-Member I am not . I will stop liking your posts

In response to: Re: Need advice please (info below).

Re: Need advice please (info below).

You can keep liking my chats, I just thought that you were mad and hated me before I took a break for a while. Sorry for misunderstanding @TAB

In response to: Re: Need advice please (info below).

Re: Need advice please (info below).

@chibam @outlander @Lee82 @Escaped_Goat @Former-Member @NatureLover now I'm having bad intrusive thoughts. I won't post about them here, I'm talking to Lifeline. I doubt they'll go away. I just feel like a burden and that I annoy everyone, and so forth

In response to: Re: Need advice please (info below).

Re: Need advice please (info below).

Im sorry @Former-Member I'll leave you to it

In response to: Re: Need advice please (info below).

Re: Need advice please (info below).

You didn't do anything wrong, I just thought you were mad at me like I said from before I took a break. I guess not.

Sorry if I upset you. You can talk to me and like my posts, I was just a bit confused. I apologise. Didn't mean to upset you or anything. Just a misunderstanding on my behalf @TAB

In response to: Re: Need advice please (info below).

Re: Need advice please (info below).


@Former-Member wrote:

And what do you mean by he's handed me out of his care? I'm confused?


Sorry. Maybe I misunderstood your original post?

What I meant was that he's basically said that your faking your crisis, right? In other words, he's claiming that you don't really need help, right? So a person who doesn't need help would obviously have no further need to see a mental health nurse, right?

So if you just agree with him that you don't really need help, he can hardly justify making any more appointments for you, can he? You'll be free.

As I say, he basically handed you that escape route by telling you that he believed your a faker who doesn't actually need his services. But maybe I misread that in your original post?

11 - 20 of 135