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Lonely

SpiderLadySenior Contributor29 Apr 2020, 2:04 pm AEST

Lonely

I am so lonely. I have no family, no children, no friends, no partner and no pets (not allowed in this rental property). I did attend some social groups before social distancing restrictions but of course they have all been cancelled.

I see and hear everywhere, it seems, that for good mental health during this pandemic, keep in touch with loved ones etc. It just really rubs my face into the fact that I have NOONE!!!

It's not like you can ring Lifeline just to chat about how your day has been, unless you are upset and/ or mentally ill.

Things were hard enough before, but now that I am always stuck at home by myself I'm that much more lonely and isolated. The closest I get to socialising, is a call from a support worker.

I find that pretty much EVERYTHING, (films, TV shows, books, songs) triggers my loneliness and I end up sobbing. In "everything" there is a partner, friend, family, pet, co-worker etc. all the things that I wish I had, but don't.

There are probably some of you who are in the same boat, but I don't think that it's common to have absolutley noone, like me. We would definitely be in the minority.

Noone to call, text, videocall, email or even write to.

Even my Psychiatrist said that pills aren't going to fix my situation, and I get that. It's so frustrating knowing what I have to do, to improve my life, mood, situation, but because of Coronavirus restrictions and also where I live, I can't do those things. Those things will be challenging enough for me anyway. So shy and unconfident!

Maybe that will do for now.

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NatureLoverSenior Contributor01 May 2020, 1:34 pm AEST

Re: Lonely

@SpiderLady yes, you are very brave to be here after a lot of trauma. I'm glad you're doing a bit better today 🙂

I guess restrictions aren't being lifted enough to make a lot of difference yet.

It sounds like you might like to cook, if you're making curried sausages? Unfortunately I'm a terrible cook, despite years of trying. But I love food - it's a dilemma! Are you a good cook?

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PurplerainSenior Contributor01 May 2020, 1:48 pm AEST

Re: Lonely

Hi @SpiderLady,

Glad you're having a better day today. My day has been better as well. Yum, I love curried sausages.

Hugs are important!😊

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SpiderLadySenior Contributor01 May 2020, 3:23 pm AEST

Re: Lonely

I am happy to hear that you are having a better day too. I normally have a bad day when the weather is bad, not today though. It's freezing and windy and wet here today. I will share my curried sausages with you online and in spirit too @Purplerain. Have a good afternoon.

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SpiderLadySenior Contributor01 May 2020, 3:31 pm AEST

Re: Lonely

Hey @NatureLover, thankyou. No I don't like cooking at all and I only do the quickest and easiest meals. I can't claim to be a good cook when I just use all the cheat methods of simmer sauces etc. bought from the shops. I think the companies that make the sauces should get the credit if any of my meals taste good. Not putting myself down, just don't think I'm very adventurous in the kitchen. Most of the time I don't care about food, and would live on comfort foods if I could. I know that too much sugar makes me teary so I try to avoid excess in that department.

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NatureLoverSenior Contributor01 May 2020, 3:53 pm AEST

Re: Lonely

Hi @SpiderLady , yes, I just saw on your Cooking thread that you don't like cooking. But it's a great thread to start!

Do you have SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) too? I struggle with depression and no motivation every cloudy day, even in summer. It sounds like you are the same?

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SpiderLadySenior Contributor01 May 2020, 5:08 pm AEST

Re: Lonely

I think that I may do, but noone has every actually told me that I do/ diagnosed me officially. But generally I do feel more depressed when the sun isn't around, especially for longer periods. And thanks @NatureLover. I just know how hard I find cooking and bothering to cook and eat sometimes, and guessed that there would be others who were the same. I like to help people in any way that I can, which isn't that much at the moment. Eating healthy meals helps with mental health as well, so I thought maybe someone might find that easy recipe helpful.

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NatureLoverSenior Contributor01 May 2020, 5:38 pm AEST

Re: Lonely

I'm sorry that it's likely you have SAD, @SpiderLady . It truly sucks to have.

And I wanted to thank you for not having a realistic (or even an unrealistic) spider as your avatar. I'm very phobic. I've tried hard to work on it, but just the image out of the corner of my eye is enough to shock and frighten me.

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SpiderLadySenior Contributor02 May 2020, 5:47 pm AEST

Re: Lonely

I know that many people don't like spiders/ are frightened of spiders and that there are some who are phobic, so I chose another 8 legged creature. I'm sorry that you are phobic @ NatureLover
, Phobias suck!

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NatureLoverSenior Contributor02 May 2020, 5:57 pm AEST

Re: Lonely

Well thank you @SpiderLady , that's kind of you. and I don't know anyone who has a phobia about octopuses 😄

How are you this evening?

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Unknown userMember06 May 2020, 2:31 pm AEST

Re: Lonely

Hi @SpiderLady , I'm sorry you're struggling with a lot and you're so lonely. I understand.

I'll talk to you, if you like?

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