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hi, my name is jelly and I have borderline personality disorder. I'm 28 years old and up until 2 years ago I was misdiagnosed with bipolar, So I'm new to this whole side of things. I've always understood the.mood swings and pushing people away, turning on them and so on. But I need to know how do you control it?? Just because I know of them doesn't make them less brutal. I have a 1year old that I struggle to get out of bed to look after some days I just crumble and lock myself away for days on end and stay in bed in the dark. I'm working on a therapist locally but until then if there anything I can do to help?? Music is a massive controller, gardening is good for distractions but otherwise I'm lost i feel myself spiralling 😞
Oh cool. I thought about that age. Do you take anything for the sleep? I have a kid so that drains me but I smoke too
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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no i don't have any sleeping medications @HakunaKhunz i found that diffusing lavender essential oils can be helpful though
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HakunaKhunzSenior Contributor
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Aww u poor thing. I used to have to do all that. Not anymore thankfully. Have you tried herbal tea? Very beneficial hey honestly
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HakunaKhunzSenior Contributor
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What time do you wake up
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Ive tried lots of things including herbal medications and the drs prescribed meds tea everything. It doesnt help and i can go days without any sleep at all. I not long ago stayed up more then 48 hours and the the next few nights only had 2 or 3 hrs sleep and i function on that surprisingly but ive lived this way for a long while so im kind of use to it @HakunaKhunz The essential oils help the best and i no longer worry about sleep, the more i stress about it the less i get so just sleep when i feel like it.
Atm i sleep between 2 and around 6 but stay in bed till later resting.
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HakunaKhunzSenior Contributor
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Bloody hell you poor thing. That's insane hey. Do you exercise? When I was an insomniac for years I took up yoga every second day and put my life toward eating way healthier and making sure I do my yoga if I didnt feel like it one day I make sure I do it the next day 100%
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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I do alot of exercise @HakunaKhunz i work as a carer, i volunteer at horse events (when they were running before the pandemic) work at another event about every second weekend thats about 6 hrs walking around, and we have horses (plus i also work with others horses as well) so i think i get plenty of exercise lol. I have to eat healthy cause of physical conditions but my diet might be changing yet again depending on some test results i get back tomorrow.
Do you still do yoga?if not do you think it would be worth taking it up again to help you manage your mh as well?
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HakunaKhunzSenior Contributor
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Oh bloody hell... that's so insane normally the more exercise you do the more your guaranteed to sleep. I'm so baffled haha.
Nah I dont do yoga anymore i hate doing it in front of people and my boyfriend doesn't have a job right now hah. My son is 1yo he keeps me pretty active hey
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Yeah @HakunaKhunz its a challenge lol.
Oh yes a 1yr old would def keep you on your toes! No sitting around for you lol!
You can do yoga at home though. You only need a mat and YouTube
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HakunaKhunzSenior Contributor
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@outlander yeah I know that's how I do it. But I'm not doing that in front of people. I'm gunna buy some workout stuff for home
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