Tough Times

@Lee82 , I really wish that I had some strategies that I could share with you in hopes of making it easier for you.

Being here with you guys chatting is helping me babe. That's all I can deal with right now.
@Former-Member @Appleblossom

@Lee82Hope you are coping, even if your feelings are all over the shop... just hanging in there is all we can do some times ... grace and beauty and light ... may come another time ...

@Former-Member

a lot depends on personality ... I could not talk about womens business until well after my first child was born at around 30. I would just go quiet and politley avoid it ... without thinking anything ... no shock ... just ... move on ... it took another 20 years to figure out that I had been sexually abused ... I would have been mortified in your shoes Lee. Dad's gf was not a good role model and very psychologically intrusive and invasive ... tbh... but maybe one day you can laugh at it and her and him, but I do not know the full history and a lot depends on the whole situation.

Take Care Ladies

@Appleblossom , I have only recently discovered that I personally don't like "those kind of conversations" but am always up for a little laugh. I use have conversations like that a lot making fun of situations, toys, ect and it turns out I was just trying to ignore what happened to me as a child/teen humour to mask was one of my main coping techniques.

@Lee82 , well I am here for the long haul with you tonight my love. Exh2 sister is here babysitting me while he goes gets their mum from hospital. PLEASE SAVE ME😂😂she means well but looks scared like I am about to jump out of a window or something 😂😂😂

Thanks @Appleblossom just trying to stay as calm as I can but failing.
I have no problems taking about pleasurable things and making jokes as well as hearing other people experiences. i just have extreme issues with the real thing. Triggers me and always has. I have never had a good experience. It has been affected me all my life.
@Former-Member

Super lee to the rescue!!! Lol

im here babe. Just ignore her...I know it's probably more to do with her not understanding what's going on for you rather than her being mean and she just doesn't know how to handle the situation.
@Former-Member

@Lee82 @Former-Member

So much can happen that is too difficult to put into words. An approach that has gradually been healing for me is collecting art about women that inspires me.

B MorrisettHappy Birthday MaggiePreening with Emu Carol WhiteDemeterHomer Winslow Fisherwomen

@Appleblossom , can't wait to see the images you have posted.

@Lee82 , I am truly sorry you haven't had good experiences in "that" way. I was 30 something before I knew how it was meant to be. But that's gone too now, I don't think I will ever be brave enough to try "that" with anyone else ever again.

babe never say never...you just need to find the right person and all that will change. And slowly slowly you will be comfortable and strong enough to try again:

@Former-Member

Hmm, Kimmy (alter 5yrs old) has not managed to grasp the idea of how Nics's dog treats work. Found myself on the floor with the container just feeding them to the dog 😂🤨

@Lee82