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I lost my shirt, I pawned my rings; I've done all the thumb dings...

I lost my shirt, I pawned my rings; I've done all the thumb dings...

Just parking all my info under this one banner so I can keep tabs on me self.

Introduce yourself here (First post 13 April 2020)

Hello everyone,

I've been living with varying degrees of agoraphobia and panic attacks since 1989 and, right now, I'm looking down the barrel of homelessness after drawing the short straw with my rental property being sold in mid-February and the new owner not open to extending my 60 days notice. Have to be out on 28 April. I'm over-55 and have no family whatsoever. Was going

to be a difficult move in the first place, but the lock-down has raised the ante with being

able to connect with support agencies. After a lifetime of being resourceful and always

managing to pull myself away from the ragged edge of disaster, now I am starting to

feel like I'm all out of moves. For years now, whenever I talk to somebody on the phone or in person, the focus is on what I can't do, what I don't have, what I can't afford and how restricted and limited my choices are - I am looking forward to being on the other side of this phase of homelessness and being assisted into a 'forever home'. Just right now, it's *gulp* and you know, wake me up when its over! I've been sorting and packing up for weeks now and that has been triggering memories of past trauma and flying monkeys ... and auuggggghhh!!

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Re: Introduce yourself here (13 April 2020...later)

Thanks @NatureLover @Maggie and @Wenna for the welcome.

As I was chasing the dust bunnies under the bed this afternoon the thought came to me to have another chat to the property agent and request he mediate with the new owner so I can get an extension until 8 May.

Don't ask, don't get.

I look forward to the time when I can put aside the need to come up with strategies to keep myself safe. Hasn't been that great where I have been for 14 years and everyone else has moved out, as the whole complex was sold, so there are layers of loss. A quirky fact about me : I'm the last resident tenant here who knows where all the cats are buried and their names.

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Reply to Maggie and NatureLover (14 April 2020)

..... because my rental property was sold (along with other units in the complex) ... and vacant possession is a condition of the settlement, it's not an eviction for rent arrears.

It's one of these scenarios where people go "oh....I haven't heard of that before". This morning I put my case to the property agent and outlined what the scenario was going to be if my request for an extension was knocked back.

Last night, I learned about a crowd in Victoria (Anika Legal) that provide free online legal services for tenants experiencing disadvantage during this time and have contacted them.

First 30 years of my life, I was caregiver to parents with severe and persisting mental illness and war trauma and I struggle with boundaries and taking care of myself. It's how I'm hardwired; the perfectionist, purple polka-dot people-pleasing thing that can't be in the driver's seat right now.

As I was surfing around this forum with all it's lovely click bait to other resources, came to a page with a review of a recently published book titled We Are Here, Stories of Home, Place and Belonging with this quote that helps me to keep it all in perspective and not go slide into the swamp of internalised stigma.

Meg Mundell’s Introduction tells us that the stories in this collection reveal just how easily, if our own luck turned bad, we might find ourselves unhoused. (p.xiii) She also tells us that

Homelessness is often seen as a result of bad choices made by flawed people. This convenient myth supports the illusion that it could never happent to ‘us’, ignoring the well-documented structural causes and unforeseen life events that can render people homeless. These include a dire national shortage of social and affordable housing, punitive welfare policies, inadequate social security, poverty, unemployment, rental stress, gentrification, family violence, sexual abuse, discrimination, injury, disability, mental illness and traumatic incidents. (p.xiv)

(anzlitlovers.com)

Let the good times roll....

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So .... I didn't get the extension that I requested (boo hiss).

As I am placing items outside for a scheduled hard rubbish removal, the word has gone out on the grape vine that there are freebies available at Jo's place. Every morning I wake up, take a look and it is like the elves have been and the pile is getting smaller.

Six more sleeps.....

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@Appleblossom

Cheers for your support.

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Your "valderi valdera" "knapsack on my back" images ... were a real jolt from the past but cheered me up no end.

@Jo-anneJoy

I am getting fitter at the moment by doing paving. I am actually enjoying it and staggering the work to suit my addled old body and mind.

Wonder if you were with the same helping organisation as I was for 7 years ... plus conferences and soup vans. It does help to walk on both sides of the poverty line, but at the moment your "in need" and I hope you get housing solved.

Take Care

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Stardate 97908.52

I'm that far in t'hole @Appleblossom I can't see the poverty line anymore.

My removalist touched base a little while ago to confirm thunderbirds are go tomorrow

and that - if I like - I can ride shotgun with them, up front in the truck, to the storage facility and

back home again. I can barely manage to climb up into a landcruiser since I've lost rotation in my lower back so will sadly have to decline the offer to be squashed between two sweaty beardy stranger blokes in a confined space for 30 minutes. ..... not on your nelly, mate.

Unplugging my computer now (sob) and this time tomorrow night (Thursday) the worst

will be over and I can kick back and relax.

Catch you all on the flipside.

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Good luck with the move tommorow @Jo-anneJoy

I hope it goes smoothly. I a really like you already- you seem to have a bit of sass!! Stay cool sweetie!! You got this.

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Stardate : 97910.79

...so the removalists were four hours late.......fortunately they were

boomers, not a beardy baldy tribal-sleeve tattoo in sight.

Last night the aged speakers on my computer popped their clogs after

22 years - guess I'll just have to read those library books that I don't have

to return until end June.

After watching the Big Truck turn the corner with all my worldly goods, when

I came back inside, Jailbreak was on the radio.....nice one, Bon.

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Glad you got your gear sorted.

Have you heard from anyone about where you are going to live @Jo-anneJoy

How many days is it again?

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@Appleblossom Last contact from a housing mob about a home-at-last was on 31 March. The centralised IAP has assured me they'll subsidise transitional crisis accomodation so long as I kick in 50% of my income but as IAP workers aren't doing face-to-face, (and who knows how long the covid-restrictions will go on for), I don't know how short term band-aid that option really is, and can't get past the 'currently-all-our-operators-are busy, please-call-back' gatekeeper bot.

One of the new owners here asked where I was moving to, I said Nunya.

@Bandaras @NatureLover @Sans911

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@Jo-anneJoy I really hope you can get somewhere with the housing people soon. Are you still in your old place till 28 April - with no furniture?

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Thinking of you @Jo-anneJoy

Not that really helps.

Maybe worth showing up at front door of a local housing office.

They have to admit you exist then.

Keep faith that you deserve a place.

Hands open with a I dont know what else to do look on face.

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@NatureLover wrote:

@Jo-anneJoy I really hope you can get somewhere with the housing people soon. Are you still in your old place till 28 April - with no furniture?


@NatureLover I'll be checking out of my rental home of 14 years at high noon on the 27th, which is when the official homelessness starts. Yeppers, all my furniture is gone. I am sleeping on a mattress on the floor (a loaner from a crisis service), and am sitting on a plastic outdoor chair with my computer set up on boxes. My Esky also doubles as a seat.

My back hates me.

All the utilities are still on and I've got a heater, stuff to cook with etc., hot water. I could get used to this minimalist lifestyle. Not having a fridge is a pest tho', had to nick around the bottle shop to get a bag of ice and placed the Esky outside so ice lasts longer.

I'm actually really happy that I've got these 3-4 days here to tidy up any loose ends and gently detach from the significant experiences that I have gone through that go with this postcode. Also have to say goodbye to all the ringtail and brushtail possums that have been my fuzzy-butt companions all these years.

Haven't listened to the radio for years; got an ancient radio clock - think it was my mum's and she's been gone since 1994. I used to joke that I lived in a house museum. Now I want to have a spending spree at IKEA.

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