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Should We Considder Bridging The Gap?

Should We Considder Bridging The Gap?

So I really only belong to the "Lived Experiance" camp. But I guess just for curiosity I just now wandered over to the other distinct branch of the forums: the carers, ect. side, just to see what was going on there. Going there sort of reminded me of one of the biggest problems with mental health & suicide in the world today: the sufferers and those around them each live in their own separate bubbles and there's a really bad communication void between them.

So I was thinking, maybe this site could somehow try to bridge that gap? Maybe instead of just having one separate zone for sufferers/lived-experiance people, and another for carers, ect., maybe we could have like a middleground zone where sufferers and carers might be able to communicate and share insight into what we want & need from our standpoint, and what confuses and/or frustrates us about the other camp?

I think we need somewhere where we can open those chanels of communication because our currant option of just having to sit and stew in our confusion/frustration isn't good enough, IMO.

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@chibam

I really liked the way you discussed pros and cons of people pleasing. Dont think I can give it up completely, nor should I.

In this strange new world of counselling and medicalising of life stages and psychosocial needs, not all therapists are equal.

I am glad you have detached from the materialistic one. Some do not have sufficient self awareness of how their unconsious bias may effect their most vulnerable clients.

I would not want to be young again. There are advantages in getting older.

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@Appleblossom wrote:

I am glad you have detached from the materialistic one. Some do not have sufficient self awareness of how their unconsious bias may effect their most vulnerable clients.


You couldn't be more right.

I read a thing a few months back from a therapist who is also a prolific writer and something of an activist, too. Her brand of politics is no mystery and, in broad terms, they are politics I agree with.

But then I read this piece she wrote a few months back in which she basically blamed her unhapppily single clients with differant politics on their own political views - saying something like: "If they were unwilling to change their unreasonable political views, it was no wonder they couldn't find a partner." This really hit home for me, because it was quite similar to devestating commentary I got about myself from my own therapist.

It was very disappointing to hear this from a person who I believed (politically speaking) had their head screwed on right.

But I think that this incident, along with my experiance with my own therapist (from the opposite side of politics) points to a deeper corruption withing the therapy industry as a whole. I think it's a case of therapists being loathe to think of people they considder "wrong" (e.g. opposite politics) supporting one another, strengthening one another and worst of all - procreating and spreading wrong-view spawn across the world.

They don't want the people they see as "wrong" to find love, community and support; they want those people to be as isolated and broken-spirited as can be, so they can "turn" them to their own viewpoints.

I hold my own political stances dearly, but I can't endorse this sort of conduct. Even the wrong deserve to find love, IMO. Even the wrong deserve to have a community. Even the wrong deserve to have a place where they are supported and cherished for who they truly are. I might disagree with a lot of what they say, but I could never deny them those basic rights. To do otherwise would be unthinkable.

Yet that is exactly what so many therapists - from all manners of ideology - use their profession to do everyday; deliberately deny their patients all hope of love and community until those patients convert to the therapists' ideology. What's that old saying? "Absolute power corrupts, absolutely"

Even writing about this is making me feel physically sick right now.

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