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Update! Safety Guideline Amendment

Update! Safety Guideline Amendment

As always I would like to thank all members for their committment in keeping our forums a safe space and inputting into the guidelines in order to ensure our community feels comfortable and engaged.

We have amended our guideline around safety and posting whilst distressed, with the goal of making it a little more defined and legible for all members. We are keen for your input and feedback, and would encourge you to get in touch with either @Former-Member, @s-jay or myself if you have any queries, by reaching out at team@saneforums.org

The update to the wording within the safety guideline is below -

In order to ensure the Forums are safe for you and other members, please:

  • avoid posting an active/imminent plan of suicide or harm to another. We are not the best people to help you in a crisis and instead encourage to you to reach out to the services linked below. An active/imminent plan for suicide will be removed to ensure other forum members do not become distressed; and duty of care protocols followed to ensure your safety (this may include escalating to emergency services such as the Police). There are a list of crisis support services available here

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Hi all - sorry to hear you have not always been notified when you put through a report, you should get a follow up from the moderator but we will certainly review our notifications to make sure they go to you to confirm your report.

Thanks for your input everyone. If there are any futher concerns around this please email us so we can address it more directly team@saneforums.org 😊

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@Former-Member wrote:

helping with how to post when feeling distressed


I think this is an important point.

Way too much personal situation info here but...

Content/trigger warning

I personally find it really difficult to directly ask for support (it's hard to even type that word) or say how I'm feeling (thoughts = "I shouldn't have feelings, I shouldn't want help" etc). So when I am not feeling good and wanting some help it often comes out like a lot of self-directed insults or "I should [do something destructive]" which I recognise may be triggering to some people although it's hard to think of that at the time. But to me it doesn't count as a "crisis" (because "I should be fine and handle this") and I am always "safe" (because "I have this under control and will decide whatever I'm going to decide, and what I decide doesn't matter to anyone").

So in that sort of situation, having my post removed and receiving a moderator email asking if I'm safe and giving me crisis links with no further communication is unhelpful (and reinforces my idea that I shouldn't be trying to ask for help etc.) but I'd be completely stuck on what else to do.

I also like Zoe7's suggested rewording of the guideline.

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Thanks for speaking out @TheVorticon it is a fine line as to when we decide whether to intervene or not and appreciate that you have let us know the consequences of our actions on you.

It is great you are wanting to review the guidelines and reword them, there is always room for improvement. Please let us know of any suggestions on how we can improve communication with you, always gratefully recieved this end thank you.

All the best

Sylvester

SANE Moderator

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Thanks @Sylvester. I think it's been a fair while since I've had a post removed due to this. Just wanted to share why that was an important point in case other people might have similar experiences.

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There's a post at the moment saying they want to k...l themselves. Yet no trigger warning. I was quite upset reading this.
@Sylvester @Former-Member @Former-Member

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Hi @BlueBay can you please send me the link for the post, so I can see it. I can't find it in this thread. Thanks!

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@Truffles

I will email now. Don't know how to link a post.

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@BlueBay, that post is most likely mine.
If suicidal and not wanting to be in hospital, being turned away from hospital, there really is nowhere to talk about this.
I don’t mean to offend people, I’m just at the end of my tether and need to talk.
I’m interested if you or anyone else has suggestions for how to talk about troubling issues like this.

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No @Former-Member it wasn't you. It's ok it's sorted now. I was worried.
Are you ok tonight? I've just come if hodpital 3 week stsy in psych unit. I was suicidal but I spoke to a nurse. It was the best thing. Why did the hospital not help you?
I feel for you. What about chatting online to Sane counsellor. Or create a new post and there's lots of members while will be happy to chst.
I hope you can start up a post. If you want to tag me feel free.
Hope you're ok xx

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Thanks @BlueBay.
I’ve just moved from a 4 week stay in a public acute ward to a private hospital.
The private psychiatrist wasn’t particularly helpful, friendly or hopeful.
My past hospitalisations have been mixed, if this is bed, I’m leaving. If it’s good, hopefully I will never enter the mental health system again. I’m done.
I’ve never seen sane chat online? When is it open?
I think we also need a post about posting safely for triggering material. I upset some people with my last posts.
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